"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Too Shy and Confused

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Alright friends here is my story. I am attracted to a girl who is very shy. She is the kind of person that you have to be the one to initiate the conversation. The problem is that I my self am very shy when it comes to someone that I am attracted to. It is very extream for me. Its to the point I almost become physically sick.

I have talked to her a few times. When we talk we both are very nervous and the conversations are short. We both go to the same church. Occasionaly I will catch her looking at me during the service. Neither of us have very much experiance with romantic stuff. I would like to try and turn this thing into something but I am not sure how to approach it. I am afraid that if I come on to her too strong it will scare her off. Then again I am not getting anywhere by being too scared to do anything.

Any advice for a confused shy guy would greatly be appreciated.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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nabster

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you should just go up to her after church or something and ask her out. At the end of the day we're men and its our duty to do these things otherwise girls will start acting like men. Its shyness and an overall lack of cajones from lads thats causing the ruination of the west in general. She obviously likes you and wants to have sex with you (its a fact, I'd bet money on it) but you gotta initiate it come on be a man! Go up to her,ask her how shes doin and if she would like to go with you to wherever. If she cant then get her number. Seriously mate its not hard!
 
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