"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ok me and this girl her name is Ashley she's like tall(er) than me but i can reach her hieght or wouldnt worry me n her flirt from time to time but i dont know if she has a boyfriend or not sumtimes i be lookin round the classroom and i catch her out of my eye staring at me like bout 13 times but i wana know do she like me so how am i gona go for it i can do it if i'm rush'd into it but i'm not or should i get her phone number first then speak to her a couple of times n go out on a date then do it suggestions appreciated
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just ask her, "Can I get your phone number?"

And be confident about it, don't expect her to say yes.
 

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wow.. sounds like the advice was taken from some experts.. It should be fun and easy to test it out...
 

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Wow. Let me put my two cents in here.

Talk to her, flirt her up for about half a class period. Then start doing your work, pulling back so to speak. After the class if over, just walk up to her, say that you think she should write her number down. Simple as that. If you do it right, the girl never acts "stand-offish". Never in my expirience anyways.
 

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I still think the number is a better choice. A simple phone call does wonders for your image. Leaving an email and resorting to that for means of first contact gives off this "scared" vibe. This is why you always ask for the number.

Besides, I don't like Emails or Instant Messages for communicating with girls. It's hard to judge what they say because you cannot hear the tone of their voice. It is likewise for them. A C&F statement may come off totally wrong because they cannot hear the humor in your voice. I stress the phone. The calls should be kept short and to the point.

Emails, Instant Messages, Myspace (and the likes) leads to long conversations, leaving you with less to talk about in person. It's way to easy to screw stuff up over the internet, since you're much more likely to just dump out information to her.

Phone
Number
Is
The
Best
Idea.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FoOk-KeNsHiN said:
ok me and this girl her name is Ashley she's like tall(er) than me but i can reach her hieght or wouldnt worry me n her flirt from time to time but i dont know if she has a boyfriend or not sumtimes i be lookin round the classroom and i catch her out of my eye staring at me like bout 13 times but i wana know do she like me so how am i gona go for it i can do it if i'm rush'd into it but i'm not or should i get her phone number first then speak to her a couple of times n go out on a date then do it suggestions appreciated
Ok, from what I have come to realize, women ALWAYS do things for a reason, her looking at you about "13 times" is a sign of interest, I mean, when you see a hot girl, don't you feel compelled to stare at em? I say you should bring up a conversation when you know you or her have to leave, and like Mystey would say "I'd love to continue this conversation later..." simple, but they spit out their number most of the time. Meet up for some coffee and make yourself interesting, don't give into her too easy and you'll be golden. You will know when the time is right to kiss close, or ask her out
 

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she's not that tall but nearly tall enough but by time i'd reach her hieght when i get my growth splurt, thanks for the replies *appreciated*
 
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