"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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AH909

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So as ive been gaming these last couple of girls ive came across a problem. It seems that ive been over doing c/f and i come of as a total douche bag. So how do i tone down on c/f and show more interest? Not showing enough interest is killing me. So how to i find a balance between the 2 and not come off as a dbag while using c/f?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you don't already use kino, then start it. Kino is a non-verbal way to show interest. Kino is a "spice" as well (and a strong one at that), so don't over do it either.

Also, when you talk to them, make the convo about them 70-80 % of the time and only 20-30% about you. You can ask stuff like "how are you today?" if you feel like it fits into your personality to ask something like that.
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
Be authentic
Ditto.

I use kino simply because it's fun and it works. It became a part of my personality.

C+F isn't part of Nino's personality, so he doesn't use it. And he doesn't need it.

You won't over do C+F if you be authentic about it. If it isn't part of your personality, you might consider dropping it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah im still trying to figure out what works best for me. I definitally need to work on my kino. When ever i use it it comes out awkward. Probably just need to be more confident.
 

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I suppose kino isn't a part of your personality then.
Jokes.

You guys must remember that your personality is always changing on some level. Just cause you can't play football doesn't mean you can't learn it.
 

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Be authentic. If it's not enough, improve till it is and then strive for more (evolve), but forget about perfection.
 
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