"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Too Much of an *******?

Miamidad81

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I visited Medellin, Colombia dec1-7th, I met a really awesome girl who I end up hooking up with during this time. We talked almost every day when I got back to the US and she kept wanting me to come back to Colombia. I decided to take the plunge and visit her again. She also told me during this time period she won a trip at her job to San Andres island which is part of Colombia and she wanted me to come with her.

I was in Colombia from the 28th of december until the 13th of January. First I was in Medellin, then the San Andres trip was from the 5th of January until the 10th.

When I arrived on the 28th, I was able to sleep with her the second night I was there, but then she told me she had her period, so I couldn't do anything for the next few days. Our chemistry this whole time is still really strong and I thought things were going perfect. For new year's eve she presented me her whole family and we had a really good time.

During our trip to San Andres island things fell apart. She told me her sister was tagging along on the trip, and it really didn't hit me how much it would affect things until after I was there. We all shared the same hotel room, and even though her sister said not to mind her and for us to do our thing, I was only able to bang her once the 5 days we were in San Andres. Also, during this trip we had all food and drinks covered, so we ate 3 buffets per day as well as drink non-stop. She also ends up loving pot so I looked around the island and bought her a good supply to smoke.

I should've known better, but marijuana tends to cause me anxiety when I'm in public places. I ended up smoking the whole time I was there thinking it might help me get laid with her, but in reality it was just making things worst because I would get panic attacks. It seemed that our conversations would die down as she stared off into space while being high and i would get nervous because i couldn't think of anything to push the conversation with.

The combination of 10 extra pounds and bloat on both me and her from all the food and the fact her sister was in the same room made it difficult for me to get laid, and at night she would back turn me when I tried to escalate things. I am getting frustrated during this point and tell her on the last day of being on the island that I enjoy sex a lot and if she didn't give it to me I would find someone else who would.

This obviously caused her to get offended but I felt I had no choice since I was leaving in the next few days back to the United States anyways. She ends up ignoring my calls for the next 2 days. I actually did end up hooking up with another girl (hot one as well) since she was ignoring my calls and I posted the pics on my facebook.

A day after i post the pics, she sends me message on msn "haha you actually did what you promised you would, hahahaha that is so funny". Then she just said "take care", then removed me from facebook as friend.



I don't know if I'm right for wanting more sex from her, since I did get laid twice the second time I visited her, but I honestly wasn't sure if she still liked me since we stopped having good conversations and she was rejecting my advances at night towards the end.

I don't know how I can recover from this one but I would like to know best advice. I like this girl A LOT and would like to pursue things further with her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HolyG

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If you ever feel bad for expressing and acting on your desires, then there is something wrong.


"haha you actually did what you promised you would, hahahaha that is so funny"


Guarantee you that b!tch wasn't laughing.
 

Tiguere

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Ignore her. She got you *****whipped the wholetime and only found out about your manhood when you finally bang the other girl.

You didn't convey to her from the beginning that you can walk away at any monent(big mistake) that's why she was taking you for granted the whole time.

Well now you contracted ONEITIS . And we all know the cure for it.
 

Miamidad81

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I was able to get a hold of her on messanger. When we talked on the phone before I visited the second time we would talk alot about sex, and having threesomes since she was bisexual. She says when I came to visit her the second time she was "testing" me with her period story to see if I wanted something serious or if I just wanted her for sex. I had told her I don't care if she had her period that I would still do her, apparently to her that's something only people in ltr's do and we had just met. The first time I banged her I also told her I didn't like condoms because I can't *** when I use them unless its someone i've been with a long time, and that's the truth, but I still use them. Apparently she had a lot of red flags in her head about my promiscuity or if I was safe and that I was sexually needy. I tried to apoligize about what I told her and that I didn't really bang the other girl and was only flirting with her (dumb, I did bang her) but she said it didn't matter now.

I did want to walk away from her while on the island when she was acting up, but it was hell because I couldn't, there was nowhere to go until my flight back!

I said I wanted to remain friends and wished her well, she said ok, but then she blocked me from messanger!. Oh well, guess for next one will "wait it out" when a girl has her period, WTF!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Miamidad81

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yeah i guess if it wasn't a ***** move i wouldn't be posting about it! good point
 
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