Too much leway for the Asian

[PRMoon]

So one of the girls I'm with is Asian (RoK) and since she hasn't been in our country for a year so I handle her a bit different from the other girls I date. She was suppose to be leaving for her homeland this winter but has decided to start her life a new her. Her english is obviously broken at best but she and I understand each other well because we spend a healthy chunk of time together.

So she emails me recently and says she wants our relationship to be stronger (her typing is broken too) and she likes being with me blah blah blah.
But in that same email she says her Boyfriend is coming over from Japan and he'll be staying longer this time. This guy showed up out of no where once before and ruined a well planned date I had for the two of us and now he's back?! WTF she told me he was her ex but all of a sudden the ex has dropped off of that status. Tyically I'd be like see ya later and lose her number but her way of dating is Korean not American and i don't think she understands. Should I tighten the reigns or do you think giving her leway is the way to go?

 

[Shot Callin]

I wouldn't be surprised if this guy has talked to her (maybe even her family?) about marriage and all that. If so, she is naturally going to be in a bind. I'm sure she likes you, but this is gotta be the biggest decision of her life: stay here and start a new life, or go back....

I'm assuming you have not talked to her about marriage, and you are not planning it now.

I would tell her she has to make a decision. She has got to tell this fool whats up. She should tell him before he comes over.

 

[Skel]

NEXT!!

 

[NewMan]

She's in America now - so she better adapt to the way of life.

Call her out on the 'Ex' part of the boyfriend.

Tell her that it's cool that her "EX" is coming over and you look forward to the three of you going out....

If she *****#s - NEXT.

 

[PRMoon]

When I went over the nature of her relationship with whatever the dudes name is previously; and she told me she still had feelings for him but also told him that he should really move on with his life because an ocean seperates them (or something like that). So the first time when he showed up un expectedly I figured she would have re emphisized that point, If I had known then that freaquent trips are sure to come I would of dropped her then.

Even though she's one of three, I enjoy spending time with this one because she lets me relax and, usually, keeps herself in line like the others (I gotta crack the whip witht them).
What I'm saying is I haven't had to get into her mind for her to fall in line and I'm not sure how she'll react to it. I don't want to break her but I'm not sure how much pressure to apply. But again also I don't want her to get thoughts of formal commitment in her head because I change my attiude towards her.

Has anyone had any experince with Asians in a similar situation? cause its new soil for me.