A couple months back I read a few articles by "the dating wizard" on inner game and confidence, etc.. It's almost identical to the DJ material. It reinforced some ideas that I instinctually knew to be true...but had been conditioned to override.
I met a girl a few months ago and she became very interested in me. I was warm to her but I also ran a great deal of game. If she asked me a question that was obviously a test, I would reply with a smile and witty comment. I rarely placated her. Once she told me she would call me at a particular time and did not because she was partying. I told her very calmly that I would not tolerate the disrespect. She flipped out and after a while walked away...an obvious bluff to see if I would placate her. I didn't bite, i turned around and left. I would look into her eyes without a problem, it felt good. As i realized how easy it was to behave like the instinctual man within me, I became even more confident in my self. She would try to make me jelous in many different ways, but I never bit, always played it cool. On several occasions she would make comments or ask questions that insinuated I was a player, they were never direct, always a fishing expedition on her part. I never reassured her that I wasnt a player, but I never said I was. She knows of many girls that are interested in me.
So a month or so passes, the sex is great. I feel very good with this girl as a person. Then things take a dip. She makes excuses not to hang out with me. Stands me up for a date. I go and suprise visit her at home to see what the deal is. We talk, she tells me a bunch of stuff about how shes ready to settle down in a relationship, but not in her life... and she says this is the reason that she forgot to meet for our date. Well, a few months before she was telling me she remembers stuff from second grade. would she forget a date? Highly unlikely. It's largely my intuition that this is a cover for the real issue that she thinks i'm playing her. So I told her that I think she remembered the date and even the time before when she was supposed to call, but actively chooses not to call. She says, "so what does that make me?" a set up in which she wants me to call her a liar. Instead i said, "scared" and she proceeds to cry, as the bullsh*t front crumbles. So i give her time to cry, then I kiss her and comfort her a little. Seems to be good. I plan another date with her. Well I'm sure you can guess what happens next, I get stood up once again. Call her, nothing. Haven't talked to her or seen her in a week.
So my question is, is this a result of too much game... and is there such a thing?
Oh, and what would your game plan be in this situation?
I met a girl a few months ago and she became very interested in me. I was warm to her but I also ran a great deal of game. If she asked me a question that was obviously a test, I would reply with a smile and witty comment. I rarely placated her. Once she told me she would call me at a particular time and did not because she was partying. I told her very calmly that I would not tolerate the disrespect. She flipped out and after a while walked away...an obvious bluff to see if I would placate her. I didn't bite, i turned around and left. I would look into her eyes without a problem, it felt good. As i realized how easy it was to behave like the instinctual man within me, I became even more confident in my self. She would try to make me jelous in many different ways, but I never bit, always played it cool. On several occasions she would make comments or ask questions that insinuated I was a player, they were never direct, always a fishing expedition on her part. I never reassured her that I wasnt a player, but I never said I was. She knows of many girls that are interested in me.
So a month or so passes, the sex is great. I feel very good with this girl as a person. Then things take a dip. She makes excuses not to hang out with me. Stands me up for a date. I go and suprise visit her at home to see what the deal is. We talk, she tells me a bunch of stuff about how shes ready to settle down in a relationship, but not in her life... and she says this is the reason that she forgot to meet for our date. Well, a few months before she was telling me she remembers stuff from second grade. would she forget a date? Highly unlikely. It's largely my intuition that this is a cover for the real issue that she thinks i'm playing her. So I told her that I think she remembered the date and even the time before when she was supposed to call, but actively chooses not to call. She says, "so what does that make me?" a set up in which she wants me to call her a liar. Instead i said, "scared" and she proceeds to cry, as the bullsh*t front crumbles. So i give her time to cry, then I kiss her and comfort her a little. Seems to be good. I plan another date with her. Well I'm sure you can guess what happens next, I get stood up once again. Call her, nothing. Haven't talked to her or seen her in a week.
So my question is, is this a result of too much game... and is there such a thing?
Oh, and what would your game plan be in this situation?
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