"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Too much discussion on BPD women here

Captain

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There's too much talk about BPD women here.

You want to know how to treat them? Or what to do if they're causing you grief? TREAT THEM LIKE ANY OTHER WOMAN. They get NO special treatment. You wouldn't let a woman with a healthy mind fvck around with you, so don't let a BPD women. Mental illness if not an excuse. You're a MAN, not her therapist. You don't have to put up with crap.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Crissco

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Captain said:
There's too much talk about BPD women here.

You want to know how to treat them? Or what to do if they're causing you grief? TREAT THEM LIKE ANY OTHER WOMAN. They get NO special treatment. You wouldn't let a woman with a healthy mind fvck around with you, so don't let a BPD women. Mental illness if not an excuse. You're a MAN, not her therapist. You don't have to put up with crap.
You know what, ive been thinking about this for a while now, been dealing with a lot of BPDs unfortunately, and your 100% right. Treat them like any other women.
 

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I think the term BPD get's tossed around heavily here. It's pretty much an excuse for a woman to be a b!tch, that's how I see it. The whole "disorder" is a debate within itself. These girls aren't mentally ill because of some serotonin deficiency. These girls have traumatic pasts. Most of them were raped or have daddy issues. They get away with this psychotic behavior their whole time growing up, so they think it's okay to act this way towards men and any other people they come across. This is the result of a weak father figure. Just another example of how feminism is destroying society. BPD is a relatively new term. Girls didn't act this way 50 years ago. They use it as an "out" for their actions. So yes, you shouldn't treat them any differently then you would any other woman. If anything, I would give them less sympathy. They don't deserve it. And any "problems" or dilemmas they seemingly run into they most likely brought upon themselves. Too many people are trying to be captain save a ho. Some girls are just beyond help. Stay clear, period. Or if you're experienced. Pump and dump. Extreme emphasis on the DUMP part. These woman have tendency of sucking you in extremely fast and extremely well.
 

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Scars laid it down and I agree.

BPD gets thrown around here like crazy. Anything a guy can't interpret = BPD. Anything a guy can't deal with = BPD. She's a great lay = BPD. She's emotional = BPD.

Look up the clinical definition and then look up all the studies that demonstrate how hard it is to even diagnose someone with BPD in the first place.

I think just a handful of the women that are talked about on this forum are actually BPD. A LOT of women are hot and cold, but it doesn't make them all BPD. Now if you KNOW that someone is clinically a BPD, this is how you treat them:

You don't.

Run.

Away.

Unless you have your stuff in check and can clearly deal with the ups and downs.
 
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