"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Too many questins. Confused SOS

Pozitron

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Ok so I don't consider myself a AFC because I know I've grown. But I'm really confused...
IS there any point when one will have it all figure out?
I mean - yea, for some time now, i've read articles and posts.. and I posted some questions which you- te ones that know those things - answered( thanks :) )
BUT, I think I miss the big picture here... Is it a big picture? Is one supposed to reach a point when he has no further questions and has it all figure out?
I feel like I'm caught up in some kind of a circle.
Should I start over? ( how?)
Is it because I don't take action or because I'm just looking for the perfect plan? Really don't know .

Yea, I may sound real off or lame or whatever.. I don't care. But just take a min. to ask yourself these questions. Tell me what you think. Give me an opinion, your experience or something practical to work with. As stupid as it may sound it would be great to figure things out.

I know you all have better things to do but I need some help and I come clear with that. Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pozitron said:
Ok so I don't consider myself a AFC because I know I've grown. But I'm really confused... Didnt consider myself AFC after being on this site for half a year. When I look back, I know that I definately was. I still have some traits.

IS there any point when one will have it all figure out? I dont know. You never figure it all out, but it does get much easier after a while. You do get much more comfortable.

I mean - yea, for some time now, i've read articles and posts.. and I posted some questions which you- te ones that know those things - answered( thanks :) )

BUT, I think I miss the big picture here... Is it a big picture? Is one supposed to reach a point when he has no further questions and has it all figure out? Not sure what to answer to this man. Refer to above.

I feel like I'm caught up in some kind of a circle. Can definately identify (over 1 year ago). You gotta break the circle, simply.
Should I start over? ( how?) Dont know. Think not.

Is it because I don't take action or because I'm just looking for the perfect plan? Really don't know . That's a big YES. When you start consistently taking action you will see results fast.

Yea, I may sound real off or lame or whatever.. I don't care. But just take a min. to ask yourself these questions. Tell me what you think. Give me an opinion, your experience or something practical to work with. As stupid as it may sound it would be great to figure things out.

I know you all have better things to do but I need some help and I come clear with that. Thanks
What to do?
Take more right action towards your goals.
DO be more social.
DO approach that first girl. Seriously, please. Do yourself that favor.
Check out the blueprint de-coded by Tyler Durden (Owen Cooks).
Read "Awaken the giant within" by Anthony Robbins. Really good book.
-He will explain what is happening here, why, and how to break loose.

Basicly, break the pattern. DO SOMETHING NEW. Break your comfort zone.

Dont expect different results by doing the same old things.
 

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Pozitron said:
Ok so I don't consider myself a AFC because I know I've grown. But I'm really confused...
IS there any point when one will have it all figure out?
I mean - yea, for some time now, i've read articles and posts.. and I posted some questions which you- te ones that know those things - answered( thanks :) )
BUT, I think I miss the big picture here... Is it a big picture? Is one supposed to reach a point when he has no further questions and has it all figure out?
I feel like I'm caught up in some kind of a circle.
Should I start over? ( how?)
Is it because I don't take action or because I'm just looking for the perfect plan? Really don't know .

Yea, I may sound real off or lame or whatever.. I don't care. But just take a min. to ask yourself these questions. Tell me what you think. Give me an opinion, your experience or something practical to work with. As stupid as it may sound it would be great to figure things out.

I know you all have better things to do but I need some help and I come clear with that. Thanks

Life is too short man. Just do what you think will have the best outcome for you. Don't be scared about stupid shlt.

Your questions are way tooooo vague.
 

Pozitron

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I know they are vague, that's why I've given them some thought. This is what I've realised:
Life is a mistery. If you try and take action, as NorwegianDJ said it gets better.
It's pointless to try to find the perfect technique, the perfect plan.. etc simply because it doesn't exist. You are just wasting your time. By this I don't mean you shouldn't improve or strive to be the best you can be. I'm saying that there is no point in trying to make a plan or to find a thing that will make you totally succesfull, that will get rid of all your problems and make it all work for you. There is no magic solution. I'm really convinced that ACTION is the ultimate key to getting what you want( do you agree?).

If you consider it, there is no point in figuring all things out. If you had known it all before it would be boring. Mystery makes life worth living. It should be a great ride...
:rolleyes:
 

Pozitron

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When you start consistently taking action you will see results fast.
You are sooo right. The most important thing is to start. But consistency is all.

Life is too short man. Just do what you think will have the best outcome for you. Don't be scared about stupid shlt
I think that's a really good guideline. Great way to sum it up .
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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