"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hey everyone

I have a problem which some people face and others dont

Ok here i go... I have too many chicks and cant decide on which one to take!

I know most of u are probably thinking 'just pick the hottest'
But i dont think like that, and i face a problem with my courage and asking them out... They all like me and i like them back, only thing is when they are together i dont know which to take, there are just so many problems. lets say Chick A flirts with me to the extreme which really bring up the emotional level coz we both like each other and are able to touch each other as such,
Chick B has a better personality and is just awesome and everyone thinks we are already dating coz of how we act around each other, I really like her heaps and she likes me as well and we always end up talking to each other in our own little private spot.
there are about 6 chicks which like me all with individual personalities and individual looks
i just dont know what to do:(
I also have a Germain exchange student at my school and we have been to see fireworks at th river and in the city at night all the time and we were getting into each other a lot when she first came over, i did what i thought was right and left her alone for a while (we werent dating or anything) then later we become great friends again and then we start doing stuff together, now we get a bit awekward when around each other and i dont want to start a relationship with her too much coz she is leaving in a few months.
there are too many chicks and i just want to know what to do!!!
I also need to know how to ask a chick out coz im good at going out with them as friends but making the next stage official is hard for me:(
can anyone give advise?

Thx from Matty838
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You have to decide for ourself. Oh, and if you don't want some of the girls, just send them my way!;) :p
 

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I have the same problems

i think that the best solution would be to go for the german exchange student. Because im guessing she will know it is a fling. Then if you cant choose between the others, get your m8s to choose (dont ask them, jsut go by the one they seem to reccomend). As if they all seem good to you, you might as well go with the one that will give you the most social proof and therefore keep the other girls interested in you.
 

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same goes to you JSH. Just send the girls my way!!:p ;) :)
 

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Originally posted by redbyte

Typical lines such as, "Will you go out with me?" Seem to be a winner these days. All you need is confidence and balls. :) Remember when your old, live in a retirement home and need help from a nurse to help you piss, you will look back and regret every opportunity you ever had.
Rejection is better than regret. ;)
Amen.;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by wavejams007
same goes to you JSH. Just send the girls my way!!:p ;) :)
lol, if any of them go to ecuador ill send them your way. The weird thing is how i pick up girls more subconsciously, than when im trying.
 

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Originally posted by JSH
lol, if any of them go to ecuador ill send them your way. The weird thing is how i pick up girls more subconsciously, than when im trying.
Thanks!:D
 

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If so then they should all be hanging off you and shouldn't care what you say or act

that doesnt really work u know
if u like a chick your not hanging off her
if a chick likes a guy she is never hanging off him
and mainly chicks care about attitude (how u talk and act) so i think it matters how i talk and act, so asking the wrong person in the wrong way could stuff up the entire lot:(
anyway thx for the advise guys, i think i will keep the rest in reserve... so i wont be able to help u guys out

any way thx to those who gave advise and good luck to those who need a girl
 

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Hey the only reason y u think thats the way it happens is coz u may see people who are currently going out and think thats the way it happens before they go out as well, also it may happen that way if the chick has one-itis for the guy, but most girls try and keep it at a down low before anything happens

other wise most the guys on this forum wouldnt have sent their posts coz they are mainly asking about chicks and them sending signals which are mixed up and the guys not knowing whats happening, so they send signals but keep it quiet (I believe u have been in the same situation from reading some of your other psots u made previously, as in the girl wasnt hanging off u, she sent small hints which u couldnt pick up until later)

so i rest my case, girls are usually not hanging off the guy if they like him coz chicks neva want to appear as desperate and play hard to get.

any way good luck with the ladies
 

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Hey everyone

i realise i sounded a little like a Jerk, but everyone does when new to another forum, anyway just thought i would say i chose which girl im gonna go with and will ask her in about 2 weeks, any way hope it goes well and good luck to all:)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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