"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How the hell do people juggle women? I have about 6 girls I've I get it on with now. I sometimes get them mixed up because their names are close to the same. One of them is ok, but she has jacked up teeth so it's a bit of a turn off. Another one is really hot, but I think she is a bit of a slut. One is a sexy milf that i've talked to for 3 years now, but never have met because she had a bf and now she is single and wants to go out. My phone is constantly being sent text to the point that I can barely keep up. How do you guys keep up with it all? I'm pretty new at working more than one girl at a time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gosh thats such a good problem to have. I have never had more than one girl but i am looking forward to having your problem lolz.
 
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Start organizing your time better, let them know what days you can chill with them and what days your busy.

This will be an invaluable experience to improve your time management skills and learning to stay sharp, if you keep these girls around you will definitely learn lots of helpful non-sexual lessons.
 
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Drum&Bass said:
Start organizing your time better, let them know what days you can chill with them and what days your busy.

This will be an invaluable experience to improve your time management skills and learning to stay sharp, if you keep these girls around you will definitely learn lots of helpful non-sexual lessons.
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I got to agree with this, i tried juggling 3 at a time and chaos ruled, all three ended up losing interest with me because i "Didn't spend enough time with them". Learned a good lesson back then, and my time management is much better now, a datebook of anykind whether paper or electronic helped me, perhaps you could look into the same.

but 6 girls? Wow, not discounting the problem but there are guys who'd kill to be in your shoes.

Although if i think about it, i'm guessing you've spent quite a bit of time working on each, 6 would eat up your time and cell phone plan in an instant!
 
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Aragon034 said:
but 6 girls? Wow, not discounting the problem but there are guys who'd kill to be in your shoes.
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If you read carefully, half of the 6 girls he hasn't actually met. E-flirting with attached women on the Internet for 3 friggin' yearrs without meeting them doesn't count.

It doesn't actually take much time to juggle many girls, if you're "hanging out" with or dating a few and keeping some on the back burner or queuing them up to replace the first group. It takes more time & effort in an exclusive, committed relationship.

OP, it's easy, stop texting them like you're their bloody girlfriend. Catch up with them and make your moves, get some actions. Then if they're good to keep around, do so, if not, chuck them and get new girls in to replace their positions. More face to face meetings and more actions, less phone calls and texts. That's the solution.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jitterbug said:
If you read carefully, half of the 6 girls he hasn't actually met. E-flirting with attached women on the Internet for 3 friggin' yearrs without meeting them doesn't count.

It doesn't actually take much time to juggle many girls, if you're "hanging out" with or dating a few and keeping some on the back burner or queuing them up to replace the first group. It takes more time & effort in an exclusive, committed relationship.

OP, it's easy, stop texting them like you're their bloody girlfriend. Catch up with them and make your moves, get some actions. Then if they're good to keep around, do so, if not, chuck them and get new girls in to replace their positions. More face to face meetings and more actions, less phone calls and texts. That's the solution.
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Ah misread... That actually makes alot more sense now.

Gah, My brain is fried, i just woke up and i already feel like going back to bed...
 
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Organize your time better with each woman. Or get rid of the ones you dont really care for.
 
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you see what happens? 6 girls and you're busy in a LEGIT WAY. THIS IS LEGIT confidence. YOU really are busy, you really need to setup schedules

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faking it. Pretending you have 6 girls when you really don't. Guys who full under this category will cave in easily under hard circumstances beacuse they CARE of the outcome
 
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