You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
iveyleeger,
Prolly does just want sex. I've done 2 out of the 3 girls I met off myspace on the first night.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've been done for a while. You haven't had anything worthwhile to say in this whole thread. All I've seen is a collection of juvenile braggadocio and posturing which serves only to show that you have no place on a "mature man" forum, regardless of your physical age.
I can't lend anything from actual Myspace experience because I'm a bit biased on what it offers. So can anyone tell me is it worth more than meeting a few FBs?
Probably not. There are some decent women, but they are probably too jaded by the myspace thing to expect to meet a decent guy. I'd only use it for FBs or party friends if you're up for that.
just feel her out so to speak, then escalate slowly. if she gives resistance, back off a little. if she's receptive, and better, she goes along with you, game is on. either way, don't pour it on...do it like a rollercoaster. serious stuff...fun stuff...dirty talk, bounce back and forth. the more you do it, the better you get, like anything else. it's a good (great) investment, since more and more women, esp. the younger ones, actually prefer it. consider it a bunch of mini-dates. for YOU, you're wasting way less of your time. them too.
then quit reading it. you sound like a woman.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you sent me a PM, my box was full. what this your question?
Tnx, I think I may start throwing some BS over there just to see what happens.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
the email i posted was from another one, not the one from last night
What is a single club?
i know what you're saying, and if it works better for you, more power to 'ya.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.