"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Too intimidating?

Adamacker

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I got in to a long conversation with one of my good friends, and she told me that one of the main reasons why women don't open up to me so fast is because I'm very intimidating. She went on to explain that bc I'm 6'4", blue eyes, and I have dark hair, and medium build that I have to let my guard down first. I'm just naturally a quiet person, and she said this was very intimidating. I'm not super quiet at all, I just have a way of surveying the scene before I stick my foot forward. How do I break this intimidation factor that I put over women?

Edit- Some girls ask me if I'm a model time to time, just some info on what I look like.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gangster Of Love

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Originally posted by Adamacker


Edit- Some girls ask me if I'm a model time to time, just some info on what I look like.

Translation: "Ask me for my number."

Anytime they ask you stuff like that, or comment on how tall you are, or how handsome, or hard to approach, they are indeed making it obvious that they are attracted to you, and it is your responsibility to get the digits. With all women, and only call the ones you are interested. Toss the numbers of the ones that don't interest you, but still ask for it, it will give you lots of practice on how to interact on that type of situation.
 

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I'm inclined to agree. I've been told that I'm very intimidating because i have a unique look and have an commanding presense, but I don't always expect the girl to do all of the work. I will meet a girl half way if I can spot interest in the way she looks at me or the way she's acting. Some times all a girl will need is a little encouragement that you aren't un attainable. Once they get past the looks and confirm that you're goodlooking on the inside as well they'll feel alot more comfortable.
 
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