Too Hard On Ex?

[logicallefty]

So my ex was over last night. I thought it would just be for some hankie-pankie but she started getting into how hard her life is and how she can't pay her bills. bla bla bla. I was happy she finally admitted some of HER mistakes in our relationship which she has never done before.

Next thing I know she is having some sort of attack and said her chest hurt so I called 911. Ambulance came and took her to ER. I followed in my truck.

Stayed there with her for a while. As soon as she became coherent again, as she is laying on the bed in ER, she starts in trying to fight with me AGAIN. I said "for the sake of your health and stress level, I am not responding!". Turns out it appears to be either an anxiety attack or problems with her heart.. I had told her I would pick her up when they released her today or whenever.

I get to work early this morning and she has been on her phone on Facebook posting her usual smack, choosing her words carefully but in a nutshell blaming me for all her stress and having to go to the ER. So I blocked her cell phone with Verizon and Emailed her and told her she would need to find another ride and "learn to live as a single person and not lean on me to do the things I would do if we were still together".

Am I being too harsh??

 

[Alvafe]

you are too lenient with her, I would not even talk with her again or care, but if I had to call emergency to her I would let her be on ER and don't care about her

only thing I always will ask you is why are you even talking with her again?

 

[speed dawg]

So my ex was over last night. I thought it would just be for some hankie-pankie but she started getting into how hard her life is and how she can't pay her bills. bla bla bla. I was happy she finally admitted some of HER mistakes in our relationship which she has never done before.

Next thing I know she is having some sort of attack and said her chest hurt so I called 911. Ambulance came and took her to ER. I followed in my truck.

Stayed there with her for a while. As soon as she became coherent again, as she is laying on the bed in ER, she starts in trying to fight with me AGAIN. I said "for the sake of your health and stress level, I am not responding!". Turns out it appears to be either an anxiety attack or problems with her heart.. I had told her I would pick her up when they released her today or whenever.

I get to work early this morning and she has been on her phone on Facebook posting her usual smack, choosing her words carefully but in a nutshell blaming me for all her stress and having to go to the ER. So I blocked her cell phone with Verizon and Emailed her and told her she would need to find another ride and "learn to live as a single person and not lean on me to do the things I would do if we were still together".

Am I being too harsh??

No, you are not being too harsh. You are being too pathetic.

 

[Warrior74]

I only speak to my ex via text about picking up the kid. I have zero desire to talk to her. Why are you letting an ex this far into your life?

 

[BetterCallSaul]

I believe I recall when you posted thinking about breaking up with this woman and then followed through. You did so for all the right reasons.

The question here is, why is she coming over in the first place? You posted you were under the impression it was for sex, but based on what I recall about your relationship, she's poisonous. Why would you even want sex from this woman? Look at what this ordeal turned into; she's right back to doing what she always does. She won't change.

She is never going to turn into a plate. Going no contact for the rest of your life is not too harsh but it's something you need to be able to follow through on.

 

[jimmy18]

Too soft if anything BECAUSE YOU ARE STILL ENGAGING WITH HER

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Logical Lefty,
You are one nice Guy...American Guys are just too kind for their own good,I used to watch them with the Asian Kids,soo generous ...You are handling a deadly Snake take care lest you be bitten!

 

[logicallefty]

We had been having s3x once a week or so sense the breakup. I texted her last night and just said a simple "How are you recovering?" and she started going b|tchy on me. I guess it's not possible to care about her as a human being but no more. I don't hate this woman, she just isn't a good fit for me. I think you guys are right, though, it's time to cut the ties completely.

 

[Desdinova]

No, you are not being too harsh. You are being too pathetic.

Agreed. You listen to her whine about her problems, you got into relationship talk (which should cease once they become an ex), you called her an ambulance, you stayed with her at the hospital.

Then she tries to pick a fight with you.

You did all this nice 5hit for her and then she treats you like garbage. If that was me, I would have walked out of the hospital. Wait, let me rephrase that.... I wouldn't have done ANY of that nice 5hit for her.

She's got a huge red flag because she's an ex. Get rid of her. You can get a shag from an OKCupid girl.

 

[sodbuster]

Well, I haven't talked to my ex wife for 5 months.... at my son's graduation..... MAYBE once a month texting before that... for the last 7 years. B1tch was an ex for a reason.

 

[jimmy18]

Even fvcking an escort would be better than contacting this nut case again

 

[jc_80]

I'd say you did all you could to be an adult about the situation, and you got laid in the process. If she's acting like this after you helped her to the ER then it's time to finally pull the plug and give her the chance to learn from her mistakes.

 

[logicallefty]

I have finally cut all ties with her. Blocked her phone. She has been Emailing me and I am ignoring. I was enjoying the post breakup s3x a lot but I do finally realize that the mental drain from dealing with her isn't worth it.

When she moved out of my house I never changed locks, which was dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb on my part. I found out the night before last that she and a friend were plotting to sneak in my house and take some furniature that she had wanted when she moved out but sense it was mine I wouldn't give it to her. The only thing that kept this from happening was she actually got smart and she knows that I have a background from when I was a police Detective and I have strong working knowledge of the legal system, and she never would have got away with it. Smartest thing I think she has done to date. But I will be changing locks and installing some security cameras now.