"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you deal with a girl who
1. Has multiple affairs when you are dating her [Claims confusion, but the pattern keeps on repeating]
2. Refuses to meet or speak or show any sign of interest [for years], but starts to make blank calls when you start to pull away ? [Am not giving any other details cause they don't seem relevant]
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You cut her off from your life like a cancer and move on, never giving her a second thought.

She's an attention hore using you for validation when she needs it.

Weren't her multiple affairs undermining your dignity at the time they were occurring? You need to cut your emotional ties and move on.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
You cut her off from your life like a cancer and move on, never giving her a second thought.

She's an attention hore using you for validation when she needs it.

Weren't her multiple affairs undermining your dignity at the time they were occurring? You need to cut your emotional ties and move on.
This^

Shes not interested.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Weren't her multiple affairs undermining your dignity at the time they were occurring?
She always made it seem like she was a victim and I sort of felt sorry for her [Wasted seven years in the process]. The wake up call was when she went back to her ex > Who was accused of killing his wife [Got away with it] and started pursuing her again.

Will follow your advice. Thank You :)
 
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The more I read, the more I value Anti-Dump's Machine. Wish I had read it before I came across my ex, but I'll use it from now on :)
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A woman who plays the victim card is even more sickening on the psychological level than you can imagine.

Trash her into the dumpster.
 

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To be honest, I think the problem is with me. A woman simply reflects what sort of a man you really are. Was just reading the following and I think it would be better if I worked on myself first

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39729

"If you are the street bum, no women will be interested in you. The machine is not the failure, the man is.

Now if the street bum recreated himself and became Cool Guy, the machine will throw up an interested women eventually.

It is that simple."
 
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You just answered your own question.

But back to the subject at hand, do not waste time with women who are of low value to you.

Once you realize the value's you seek in other women to have, then you will understand how easy it can be to let some twisted girl go.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It has been three years since I broke up with my ex and the pain has subsided a bit. When I look at myself right now [objectively], I'm a bit surprised at the number of things I fall short in/at. It is as if I was sleeping through life before and have just woken up :p.
 
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Something that made sense and pointed out my exact mistake

This is a major frustration for Beta minded young men given to a feminized conditioning that convinces them they’ll be rewarded for loyalty, support and building relational equity with a girl. I’m highlighting this phase because often enough it’s at this beginning point young men are prepared to compromise their life’s ambitions to play a role that their feminine conditioning predisposes them for. The danger being long term life decisions made in order to maintain a relationship he believes his sacrifices will be rewarded for in favor of personal goals or developing passions and personal potential.

Here is the warning for any late teen / early adult man: This is generally the point at which you’ll have to make some real personal assessments of yourself if you have a girlfriend. This will be the first test of the red pill versus your feminized conditioning. Most blue pill guys entertain the ‘invisible friend’ of an LDR (long distance relationship) for the first time at this juncture, or they alter their educational priorities to accommodate maintaining their relationship.

Statistically the girlfriend you expected to build a Disney-story life with will break up with you as her options expand while yours constrict (due to prioritizing her goals above your own). The decisions you make at this stage are up to you, but understand (barring personal convictions) this stage will come as a woman’s SMV begins it’s rapid ascent and along with it opportunities she’s been scarcely aware of until now.
http://therationalmale.com/2014/03/16/preventative-medicine-part-i/
 
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