Too comfortable in current situation..

[wudiez]

any of you guys had this experience?
I think i've gone into limp mode. And slowly reverting back to nice guy mode.

Everyweek i hit the clubs, just to dance, but somehow i end up meeting some hotties, and end up dancing with them someway or another, we might end up making out depending on how i feel etc.

But theirs no game involved no challenge? I'm not actively making an effort, dancing is a given i can dance, so i just move on the dance floor,
No kino, hardly any conversation is needed just dancing.
But i somehow feel like im getting as much action as the guys that are putting alot of effort into kino'ing, introing themselves, buying drinks etc.
its as if all i got to do is dance and then i get the goods.
its just happening on auto pilot. But now its somewhat become quite boring.

It's as if, I've become comfortable in the situation, that i know that evrey week im just goign to hit a club dance abit then get picked up and meet a new girl and get some new action,
so therefore i dont need to practice and refine my DJ skills, I feel like i've been out of the game for a long time, just cruising along everyweek and enjoying what comes.

Any of you been in this situation. I've decided to get back into the game, actively going after and practicing these skills. I remember how much more fun it was, testing and refining those dj skills.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It just sounds as if you are comfortable with your DJ skills, as if it is now a part of your lifestyle; it's something that you do effortlessly. I'm pretty sure a lot of guys would like to be in your shoes.

I'm curious though, in which way do you believe that your reverting into being a nice guy? Being a DJ doesn't mean that you perpetually chase women, it's just the ability of being comfortable and confident whenever you choose to.

 

[rrrrr]

This is very interesting, do you think it's because you just don't care? If your buddies said, hey let's go do some other activity you enjoy that doesn't involve women, would you say, no I want to meet women?

It almost sounds like you don't care if you meet women or not. Are you having more success now than ever before?

 

[wudiez]

Yer, i feel like im reverting to nice guy, because i dont feel the need to be ****y and funny, kino.

too comfortable with what is happening.

Like i dont tell myself, ok now im going to act indifferent to this girl, or ok im goign to call her back in 3 days instead of 2, or hey she just did somethign stupid i have to neg her.

Like i used to plan things out, i would go on a date, execute my plan, make so that at the end of the date she was literally all over me, like i'd kino her, give her a little then back off tease her. Go in for the kiss, then back off and talk about something random. And this was hella fun.

But now i just feel like im being nice, talkign about life, random stuff, not negging her what soever, but at the end of the day, im gettign the same result. Like i'll just hold her hand and i'll get some action lol. Like id ont need to do anything special.

Like in other words, im just cruising along, not paying too much attention, and in a way i feel like im just turning into a laid back nice guy. <<< = not good!!!
When i meet a girl, i dont say anythign interesting nothign to spark an hour long conversation, just hey how u doing? How was your day. normal stuff, which in tern is all the boring nice guy stuff.

 

[wudiez]

This is very interesting, do you think it's because you just don't care? If your buddies said, hey let's go do some other activity you enjoy that doesn't involve women, would you say, no I want to meet women?

It almost sounds like you don't care if you meet women or not. Are you having more success now than ever before?

>> No i care, like i love meeting woman, but be honest, because its soemthign that happens every week. I woulnd't mind giving up a week or two just to chill with the boys, although i think girls would come along anyway =P .
But the feeling of chasing, the hunt and the need to use all my dj skills that i was practicing yrs ago.. are slowly disappearing..

I woulnd't know about success, like maybe just the physical side. Im not really feeling anything emotional at the moment, like because i havent really got to know a woman properly in so long, like spend time kino'ing, negging so she'll open her self to me..
It's just meet greet, and already were touching.. then when the nights over.. see you later.. and i wont really meet them ever again, unless they somehow come after or find me.

But yer, i do care, and want to meet that special someone.. and i definetly dont wanan meet her by being a passive nice guy..