Too busy for me on new years ?

[Aceupmysleeve]

Hi this is my first post on here so if im making some big mistakes with this girl and how i act in the relationship dont be surprised i wont be lol. A little backgroundd on me , im 23 in school and havent had a serious relationship for a while now, well the past year or so. Ive dated but it hasnt turned into a an official relationship much to my dissappointment obviosly.

Soo my current situation, hopefully someone can shed some light on what im doing wrong here. Btw im typing this off my phone so my apologies for the grammar. i just started talking to this one girl about a 2 months ago and ive been running imto the same **** over and over with women and this ones no different. Everything starts off hot and heavy super great chemistry im mr confident and then slowly we stop txting as much and the back and forth calls barely happen. I do this because i dont want to appear needy and also im hoping she will call when i do this. She doesnt. So thats how this relationship has been goin, less and less chemistry and less calling but i still like the damn chick, i guess cuz of the whole loving the chase thing. Its funny cuz im aware that i like this chick more when i get less attention and less when she pursued me more. Still tho we are talking daily and i feel she still likes me but i dont know if im shooting myself in the foot by how i pursue her.

She works a lot And im currently on break from school and bored to tears so i understand we cant txt as much as when we were both in school a couple weeks ago and she had less work hours. The problem now tho is i am always asking her to hangout it and she always has a pretty good excuse. This makes me kinda bitter but i try to just be nice and say its cool. Also it was just her bday i tried to see her and she was not available and the next day she was busy as well. Now i can take a hint, if she was totally uninterested i would not waste my time but she invited me to her bday party following the actual date of her bday which was at a club and when i went she was all over me in front of all her closest girlfriends, jumping my bones every second she had. These are the kind of mixed signals im dealing with. Btw shes not a big clubber or party girl. Sooo ya that was about 3 days ago and i told her i want to spend new years with her, we txt evrry day so i dont think its too much that i should expect her to spend new years with me too. I told her that she could come with me to my buddies house party and she tells me shes promised her girls to go to the same club she had her bday at, doesnt invite me btw.. *****... Lol. Now i dont know how i should be about this.... My past attitude when she has let me down for dates has been its all good we can chill another time... But im really tired of not having the control here.. Shes a really sweet girl other then this just her actions r making me feel treated unfairly .

So 1 : is she in the right for going with her friends and its too early in the relationship for me to exepct more? 2: Am i being too understanding/ being too nice when she says she cant hang out. Its been 3/4 times now in a row prior to the bday. 3 : is there something else u think i should be doing that im completely missing here.

Be brutally honest i dont care , just annoyed with not understanding relationships any help is appreciated.

 

[Blinkers]

Often when people say they don’t care, it means the opposite. So I am going to guess that you don’t want to hear that you are wasting your time worrying about this girl and that you should read all the sticky posts, grow pair of balls and start playing the game.
But if I am wrong, then welcome to the forum, read the bible, the techniques and then be as surprised as I was that they actually work – Then preach to others.. 

 

[Greasy Pig]

If you're not fvcking her, two things: you're her friend and she's probably fvcking someone else.
When she flakes on you, does she make a counter offer? If not, go ghost and pursue other women.
If she was all over you at the club, did you try to bang her? If not, why not? If you don't escalate, you're on a fast track to the friend zone.

 

[LP700-4]

Dude, you're just a beta orbiter to her. Let me tell you right now, THIS GIRL HAS NO INTEREST IN YOU. Girls love to talk. They will do it with anyone. Even their worst enemy. Don't take her texting you for anything when she constantly turns you down. She just enjoys having your company for validation and social proof. Why do you think she was all over you at her birthday? It was just to make herself look good to get friends. She doesn't really give a $h!t about you.

The time you're wasting on chasing this girl could be spent chasing three girls or more who ARE interested in YOU. Your best course of action here is simply to cut off all contact with this girl. Delete her number, pictures everything and move on to another girl.

However, you have a lot to learn about girls so before moving on, I suggest you read the DJ Bible.

In summary here's your problem:
* You're texting her way too much. Texting is just for building a little comfort and then asking out.
* You're way too available to her. After asking her out two times and she comes up with an excuse, time to move on.
* You're too hung up about having a relationship when you don't understand how women work. Read the DJ bible.

Take these words from me, the other posters above and the ones to follow knowing that we don't hate you and we're not making fun of you. We only want to see you get better as a man, understand the true nature of women and thus have better success with women.

 

[Aceupmysleeve]

Thanks everyone for the replies . Just have 2 more questions now and dont worry i can take the advice its much appreciated ! So do i tell her im done or just go ghost ? And where do i find this dj bible ?

 

[VladPatton]

She's just playin with you, man. Whenever she's bored she'll strike up a text with you just to shoot down your hang out requests. Stop chasing her, leaver her alone, delete all her info and move on. She is giving you nothing and you're hoping for everything. Time to change that!

 

[Aceupmysleeve]

Yes to answer some questions we're not in a relationship. Also i really appreciate the replies did not expect such good ones so soon as it is my first post, awesome. So thanks guys im going to take your advice as it seems pretty consistant here, id just like to ask a couple questions.

1 do i just cut off all ties and stop bothering? Or let her know im done ?
2 wheres the dj bible and if u were in my shoulds a complete newb here .. Is this where u would start?

Still open to all advice thanks!

 

[VladPatton]

Yeah man, just go ghost, you don't owe her (or anyone) any explanations. A girl interested in you does not confuse you, she makes it easy.

Here's the DJ Bible:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=195515

 

[Aceupmysleeve]

Thanks vlad ! Ill read it asap