Too blind to see, too deaf to hear, too headstrong to take in any advice...

[seek&destroy]

So, I'm back. Same girl again...to make things short, I took the advice some of you guys gave me (plus, I found one of my old posts that I left as advice for someone about 2 years ago). I started slipping away from her. It was sort of hard at first, considering that the only reason I really wanted to be there was mostly when the other guys were around her.

Just to recap...shortly after we went out she became very ill and was hospitalized for well over a week. I went to visit her a few times with a friend of ours, she was very happy to see us and was being very cheerful despite her condition, which really impressed me. Also, before this happened, we were going to go out for lunch, but she cancelled, said she wants to move it for another day, and to this day we haven't talked about it. We still hung out a few times in between classes.

Back to the present...

A few days ago, my buddy brought his girl to school with him. She sat in on one of our classes, and they went to get some food. I walked them there, but since I wasn't going to order anything, I left and went to the gym for well over an hour and had a wicked workout. My buddy was surprised I didn't stay with them because he knows I like this girl, especially because I used to try to be around her as often as possible until I realized that I was making myself way too available for her, so I decided to distance myself from her when possible. It started working and she started talking to me on IM now...instead of having it the other way around, but I'm still keeping at it. I used to walk her out and wait with her until her ride showed up, now I just walk her out and say goodbye for the day.

It's no secret. I like her, and she knows it. She's told me she likes me too, but I kept getting sort of mixed signals from her every day, so maybe bailing out for now is the best option. If she wants me, she can chase me. I have a date with another girl this weekend, and once again I'm going to let her subtly find out after.

 

[badboyjmm]

I don't know if this is your one-itis but it seems like it. Great job on fixing those details that made you too available. But really, do you really thing it's worth it to get with this girl after all that time ?

It's no secret. I like her, and she knows it. She's told me she likes me too, but I kept getting sort of mixed signals from

She told you that she likes you but doesn't ask on it. You gotta judge by the action not the words... So the mixed signals cause from there, she say something but act the opposite.

Just forget this girl

I have a date with another girl this weekend, and once again I'm going to let her subtly find out after.

Well let her know directly ! You don't have to be subtle about it. Beside, if there's any interest, she will let you know.

 

[SandHawk]

Here's a pro-tip about general female behavior: They are passive creatures and sprinkle "hints" around like a coke friend is sprinkling coke over his waffle he's about to consume.

The mixed signals might be because you do not act on her subtle hints, confusing her and therefore she's giving off signals that are opposite of what she means because she's as confused as you. How to fix this? Just escalate things gently. Up the kino gradually, grab her close every now and then, start massaging her shoulders(excellent kino and if she's the right kind of girl, she will return the favour), run your hands through her hair. Don't escalate too fast but observe her reactions. And then after softening her up for a bit, get face to face her with, grab her waist, put close and look her in the eye. And when she tries to look away, run a C over her face from her hair down to her jaw line. If she doesn't try to get out, kiss her.

If she rejects you, you'll make a 360 degree spin and right before you go out of view, yuo grab your crotch and do an MJ "oww". And don't look back.

 

[seek&destroy]

This is getting friggin ridiculous!

It's like everyone (well not everyone, but thats 3 different people who have noticed it, just like I have) seems to think that this girl wants me. A random guy I was sitting next to in class today nudged me in class today to tell me that she was staring at me. She really was...again. This happens every time I don't sit next to her. He asked me if there's anything going on between us and I said no, but that's cause I was seeing someone til recently.

Like I said that's 3 different people that have pointed this out to me so far it's getting friggin ridiculous. See though, whenever I asked her if she wants to resched, she just deflected it right back at me, and yet when I tell her I'm seeing someone else, she steps up the chase. This girl is way too confusing.......