You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Exactly! Nowhere does he mention how long he was depressed or 'down in the dumps'. He tells this story to try and connect with you if you consider you are down in the dumps as well or if 'he did it, so can you'. He was popular in highschool because he went around to everyone saying something along the lines of... "Vote for me and I won't bull**** you" or something like that. Now back in the day when he was in highschool that type of campaigne was probably new but if you do that today you might get punched in the face. Bottom line: he made "Tony Robbins" Successful.Originally posted by MackJr
I think the only real problem is that he's at such a high level, it's not always realistic for everyone to get there as fast as he did. He says that he came from the bottom in a one-room apartment in depression, but if you listen to the various stories he tells, the complete picture is that he was already pretty successful, he'd achieved a 10,000/month income and had been popular in high school before he got depressed and lived in that apartment. Then he learned NLP and got out of that funk, but clearly, he wasn't starting from zero when he got things moving, an impression he gives when he tells his sob story.
So why do you guys insist that he did these things so fast? Talk about people being unrealistic.Originally posted by Vandermast
Exactly! Nowhere does he mention how long he was depressed or 'down in the dumps'. ...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Tony Robbins said that he went from being depressed and in the dumps to being a millionaire in one year. He doesn't technically say that he was over his depression when he had the million dollars, but it's a logical conclusion that he'd got over it sometime within that time frame.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So why do you guys insist that he did these things so fast? Talk about people being unrealistic.
A year isn't unrealistic to get out of the dumps, the millionaire thing is all about having the right product in the right place at the right time. More external forces to contend with that depressions which is controlled by you.Originally posted by MackJr
Tony Robbins said that he went from being depressed and in the dumps to being a millionaire in one year. He doesn't technically say that he was over his depression when he had the million dollars, but it's a logical conclusion that he'd got over it sometime within that time frame.
I'm very impressed by his book "Awaken the Giant Within". It gave me the ability to have superb emotional control. Plus, he is very positive about being able to change your life.Originally posted by Doc73
Has anyone ever actually listened to him or bought any of his programs? If so did they work at all and if they did, how have they had an impact on the way your life is right now?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.