slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Hey All. This is my first post to sosauve.net, though I have been lurking for a while. I decided to sign up after what went down at work tonight. But first let me give you a little bit of background about my self. Don't worry, it will be fast.
A DJ I am not. Hell, to be honest I never had a real girlfriend. Yeah. Sad. I know and after a while people start to ask questions. Like, "Are you gay?"
Not gay. But I am very shy, lack self confidence and lacking some self esteem. Why? Because I don't have the balls to go up to a woman, initiate a small conversation, ask for a phone number so I can call her up later and ask to join me for some coffee and stimulating conversation. Yup. I even got David D's ebook and get his news letters. Full of good stuff. The problem with his stuff is it cost more money then I can fork out right now.
Actualy the bigger problem is, getting the balls to walk up to a girl and talk. The prettier and or more interested in a woman I am, the harder it is for me to talk to her. Hell, I can't even look a girl in the eyes.
So, onto tonight. A while back I known this girl and worked with her we would chat and me being the shy person just would not know what to say. One day on lunch she asked me what the heck I was eating. It was a TV dinner. So I told her. She said something to the tune of taking me out to dinner one night, chinese resturant - 1.25 a scoop or something like that. I shrugged it off and felt my stomach sink. No idea why. Known what I know now, I coulda shot back
"Sure, but you are going to have to do a lot better then 1.25 a scoop." or "what, are you too lazy to cook for me?"
something like that, which are probably not very good but better then sitting there like I did.
A while later she transfered stores and in another missed golden chance, I found out and she was actualy there a couple days before she left when I went in to cash my check. So I have some small talk with her, everything going kind of smooth, but instead of saying, "how about writting your number down so we can stay in contact" I just said, "bye" and left kicking my self for the blown chance. My friend was with me too.
Recently she came back to our store. A 2nd chance I am thinking to my self, better not screw this up. But looks like I am off to a good start of jacking this up. Up to tonight, things have been just small talk, kind of messing with her a bit, you know, to get over my shyness and crap.
Tonight (get your butt kicking foot ready) I go up stairs to check the status of the loads (I work in a grocery store. Its a job) and she and her manager is up there. She is acting a bit dirty. She sees me and puts her hand to her face and with her pointer and middle finger, apart, sticks her tongue between them.
Yeah.
I may miss a lot of stuff, but I know what that was. I had no idea. no comeback nothing. For that.
She said, "whats a matter, slitherjef, I thought you liked it when I talked dirty to you?"
What the hell was I suppost to do here? All I could say is,
"I do, but that talk is highly inappropriate for work [small pause] I like it!"
Which did get a laugh from her and her manager who herself is a bit hot. After that, the girl went back down stairs and I am sitting at the next computer friggin nervous.
I go back down stairs and text my friend and told him that I was an idiot and I think I just been hit on. With me having pretty much no experience with girls, I was not 100% sure.
He, is able to pick up chicks with out problems so he tells me to go get her. All this time I am trying to clean up my department, kind of freaking out because this sort of stuff dont happen to me often and that means, I may have blown my shot with this girl. My main objective with her so far was to just try and get over my shyness and be able to talk to women a little easier, even if she just put me into the lets just be friends catagory.
But before I left work, I was thinking of a smooth way to try and get her number and this was the last straw...
I figured out what I was going to say to her,
"Hey... I was wondering if I could ask you a quick question"
her: "okay"
me: "I was wondering what the best way for a shy guy to ask for a girls phone number"
Wait for her to tell me then whip out a pen and paper and do what she just said.
Thinking this would show her that yes, I am interested in a woman and catch her off guard a little maybe getting her to think, is he not interested in me?
But I chicked out at the last minute and left saying, "You still here? quit milking the clock huh!?" which was probably done.
So there you have it. The last straw. I think I blew it with her. Though maybe I can get over my shyness with her help.
I probably should mention that I don't work directly with her, she does work in my store. And she has 3 kids. Probably not the best starter girl I know, but as long as she is talking with me, I might as well give it a shot and talk back.
So. Im tired of this. There has been a few times I have been hit on but too (below)AFC to do anything about it.
I hope reading this forum I can get out of this rut. Start talking to women so I can get some confidence self esteem and get over my shyness and maybe actualy pick up a chick.
I should go with my buddy to a bar to see how he does it.
Sorry for this long boring first post, but I am getting sick of just wishing I could find a girl and when I find one Im interested in, screw it up. Thanks for listening
A DJ I am not. Hell, to be honest I never had a real girlfriend. Yeah. Sad. I know and after a while people start to ask questions. Like, "Are you gay?"
Not gay. But I am very shy, lack self confidence and lacking some self esteem. Why? Because I don't have the balls to go up to a woman, initiate a small conversation, ask for a phone number so I can call her up later and ask to join me for some coffee and stimulating conversation. Yup. I even got David D's ebook and get his news letters. Full of good stuff. The problem with his stuff is it cost more money then I can fork out right now.
Actualy the bigger problem is, getting the balls to walk up to a girl and talk. The prettier and or more interested in a woman I am, the harder it is for me to talk to her. Hell, I can't even look a girl in the eyes.
So, onto tonight. A while back I known this girl and worked with her we would chat and me being the shy person just would not know what to say. One day on lunch she asked me what the heck I was eating. It was a TV dinner. So I told her. She said something to the tune of taking me out to dinner one night, chinese resturant - 1.25 a scoop or something like that. I shrugged it off and felt my stomach sink. No idea why. Known what I know now, I coulda shot back
"Sure, but you are going to have to do a lot better then 1.25 a scoop." or "what, are you too lazy to cook for me?"
something like that, which are probably not very good but better then sitting there like I did.
A while later she transfered stores and in another missed golden chance, I found out and she was actualy there a couple days before she left when I went in to cash my check. So I have some small talk with her, everything going kind of smooth, but instead of saying, "how about writting your number down so we can stay in contact" I just said, "bye" and left kicking my self for the blown chance. My friend was with me too.
Recently she came back to our store. A 2nd chance I am thinking to my self, better not screw this up. But looks like I am off to a good start of jacking this up. Up to tonight, things have been just small talk, kind of messing with her a bit, you know, to get over my shyness and crap.
Tonight (get your butt kicking foot ready) I go up stairs to check the status of the loads (I work in a grocery store. Its a job) and she and her manager is up there. She is acting a bit dirty. She sees me and puts her hand to her face and with her pointer and middle finger, apart, sticks her tongue between them.
Yeah.
I may miss a lot of stuff, but I know what that was. I had no idea. no comeback nothing. For that.
She said, "whats a matter, slitherjef, I thought you liked it when I talked dirty to you?"
What the hell was I suppost to do here? All I could say is,
"I do, but that talk is highly inappropriate for work [small pause] I like it!"
Which did get a laugh from her and her manager who herself is a bit hot. After that, the girl went back down stairs and I am sitting at the next computer friggin nervous.
I go back down stairs and text my friend and told him that I was an idiot and I think I just been hit on. With me having pretty much no experience with girls, I was not 100% sure.
He, is able to pick up chicks with out problems so he tells me to go get her. All this time I am trying to clean up my department, kind of freaking out because this sort of stuff dont happen to me often and that means, I may have blown my shot with this girl. My main objective with her so far was to just try and get over my shyness and be able to talk to women a little easier, even if she just put me into the lets just be friends catagory.
But before I left work, I was thinking of a smooth way to try and get her number and this was the last straw...
I figured out what I was going to say to her,
"Hey... I was wondering if I could ask you a quick question"
her: "okay"
me: "I was wondering what the best way for a shy guy to ask for a girls phone number"
Wait for her to tell me then whip out a pen and paper and do what she just said.
Thinking this would show her that yes, I am interested in a woman and catch her off guard a little maybe getting her to think, is he not interested in me?
But I chicked out at the last minute and left saying, "You still here? quit milking the clock huh!?" which was probably done.
So there you have it. The last straw. I think I blew it with her. Though maybe I can get over my shyness with her help.
I probably should mention that I don't work directly with her, she does work in my store. And she has 3 kids. Probably not the best starter girl I know, but as long as she is talking with me, I might as well give it a shot and talk back.
So. Im tired of this. There has been a few times I have been hit on but too (below)AFC to do anything about it.
I hope reading this forum I can get out of this rut. Start talking to women so I can get some confidence self esteem and get over my shyness and maybe actualy pick up a chick.
I should go with my buddy to a bar to see how he does it.
Sorry for this long boring first post, but I am getting sick of just wishing I could find a girl and when I find one Im interested in, screw it up. Thanks for listening
