"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tonight was the date, and she aint answer her phone, she tried me man.

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Man this girl tried me for real.

Tonight i was supposed to go out on a date with this one girl, we talked about going out tonight last week, and today she called me in the moorining while i was at work, reminding me of it, so she told me to call her when i get off work. (oh yeah she said that she might be tired later on tonight:rolleyes: )

So 30 minutes ago i sent her a text, needless to say that she still hasnt answer to it, im not gonna text her again or call her cause i dont wanna seem desperate, but im pissed off man, im really pissed off.

What should i do here? i was thinking in not calling her or texting her until she does, but if she does what do i tell her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tell her: F*CK YOU BIZATCH! YOU'RE NOT WORTH MY TIME.....GAWDAMMIT!
 

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wait, so you only texted her once and she didnt respond and ur getting all offended....? true, u dont wanna seem desperate, but CALLING once isnt desperate, especially since she said to call her. im horrible with my cell phone, ill get messages late and half the time i dont even have it with me. maybe she lost her phone, battery died, or just didnt check her text messages?? one thing you have to learn as you go is to not take things so personally. getting angry over the little things is probably just as bad as being desperate, they're both things youll have to ostracize from your persona when walking the path of the dj


so, if theres still time and nothings changed, at least give her a ring once. dont know how well u know this girl, if she calls later u could always say something came up at work and u tried texting her to reschedule, but then i dont know what the text message said. remember, things come up, cell phones get misplaces, dont get angry right away. if she actually did blow you off, dont let it bother you. a dj wouldnt care, so just get some more #'s and more dates if things dont work out
 

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man this is fuked up , i cant believe her, got me all excited and sh it...

so when she calls me or texts me what do i tell her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You're not going to text her back, but you're desperate anyway. My suggestion, never ask one girl out at a time.
 

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nah we always text each othe back and forth and she always answers, but what i coincidence that the night we supposed to go out she doesnt answer? Oh give me a fukin break!
the reason why im not calling her now its cause i know she got the text, and if i call her and she doesnt answer then ima really blow, and anyways if she didnt get it then why the hell she aint call me or text me about the date, man fuk it
 

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Stop messaging!!!

Call her up leave her a voice mail, tell her to meet you somewhere. Tell her you are waiting for her. Go there wait for her. Dont pick up the phone if she calls

If she dont show up tonight,

NEXT!! move on with your life.
 

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Originally posted by Blackstar
man this is fuked up , i cant believe her, got me all excited and sh it...

so when she calls me or texts me what do i tell her.
Don't reply. If you reply you make yourself look weak. You are basically saying "ok you played me and left be hanging, but I am a loser and would still like to be with you"

she calls, don't ever call back. If she really wants you she will look for you in person, and when that happens I personally would reject her to save face.
 

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nah i cant call her now, i just cant call her after i texted her, i dont wanna seem like im deperate to go out with her, she doesnt drive so that idea wouldnt work in this one, but still...i cant call her... i know she got the sms man i know it
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Next her.

She'll realize she made a mistake when you're with another girl. If she has any confidence, she'll come over to you and ask for another date.

Then you can just do the same thing to her. =/
 

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if she texts me i wont reply (unless she does tonight) but if she calls me ill pick it up and see what she comes up with, i know its gonna be some bs, but we'll see.
 
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Relax dude, you are overreacting -- if she wanted to blow you off she wouldn't have called you in the morning - these DJ's are getting upset over nothing -- she could be sleeping - do txt messages ring your phone?

You should have called and not text!

She likes you - chill and don't show her your emotions - be calm - be a don juan!
 

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^^^good lookin'

And by the way i text her "so wasup girl u made up your mind?"

it was already 9 pm and she didnt know where she wanted to go, thats why i said that.
 
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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Relax dude, you are overreacting -- if she wanted to blow you off she wouldn't have called you in the morning - these DJ's are getting upset over nothing -- she could be sleeping - do txt messages ring your phone?

You should have called and not text!

She likes you - chill and don't show her your emotions - be calm - be a don juan!
But then again, she can be lying on her back with legs in stirrups getting rammed by another dude!

Just joking.: But it is a possibility.

OK the stirrups was a little bit much but it made the visual more interesting!:D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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well i called her up and it seems like the phone is off or dead, first i had 4 rings or so and the voicemail came on, then the 2nd time i had like 1 ring and the voicemail came on. ofcourse i dial from a different number:D , i was just trynna see if she was available, you know to see if she was gonna pick it up.

Im not even mad nomore, i feel like nothing ever happened, wich is the way ima act when she calls me.

dang, you see what time do, just 2hrs ago i was pissed off! now im good....hmmm i wonder why?...
 
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Put a tracking chip in her and get a gps tracking device and you'll know her whereabouts at all times!
 

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Bad move dude, you sent a text to confirm a date? How bout if she didn't get it? Always Call...stop the text messaging!, unless she is your girlfriend!
 

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Lol .. Blackstar .. i'm not sure what you're doing there, but when you dialed and got 4 rings and then answering machine, her phone was ON. When you dialed again it was OFF.

In other words, she probably knows it's your AFC butt calling her so much and from different numbers.
 

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dude, stay away from text messages, voice calls are always better you can't tell what tone is being used in a text message and it tends to be open to misinterpretation.

don't let someone else control your happiness.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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