Joe_Player
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We've been together for 23 months. Never broke up until 1 month ago. We were a very happy couple. We both had our first time together, shared the same interests, had the same personalities and views of life. How did all happen? A month ago I had no idea, today, I'm worse.
We broke up on Feb 22th night, I kinda forced the break up because I couldn't stand her anymore. She had become kind of cold and got mad at everything. The weekend before, I had spent it with my friends at the beach. She got mad because I didn't take her with me, even though I had asked her and she said, "it's ok, go with your friends"
I told her I wasn´t her slave, and she shouldn´t be mad if I wanted to spend my weekend alone with my friends, and she finally said, "Don´t worry I´m not that mad anymore, I wrongly thought that you would prefer going with me."
I told her I wouldn´t get mad if she did it with her friends and that there was no reason for her to be mad. She finally said she wasn´t mad anymore.
We talked for a while (long story short), I asked her if she still wanted to be my girlfriend. She kept saying "I don´t know", while I said, "I don´t know means no to me, I want a concrete answer, yes or no?" until she started crying and we hugged, and she said I didn´t care about her, I stopped being romantic to her, didn´t care about little details and she wasn´t confortable with me anymore. "Maybe we got lost in the routine"
I agreed and told her I felt the same. But i didn´t believe in giving us time, instead I only wanted a yes or a no. She said "I really don´t know", and I said: "What do you want Jenn?" "I DO know what i want, I only need to know what you want. Because we can give it a try, but I want you to change completely, I want it ALL from you, not just a little bit"
She didn´t say anything, so I finally said, "Ok, I get it. But I only wanted to hear a yes or no". She finally said no, and I said, It´s ok, Here, take your stuff (including a cell phone I had in my car). She got surprised and said, "wait, I still want to talk with you. I don´t want you to drift apart."
I said it was ok, but I had to go, and the last words I heard from her that night was: "Our love was really special for me." And she kissed me until I said good bye.
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Three days with no contact, and suddenly we meet again at a mutual friend´s birthday party. It was awkward at first, but we started talking and *instant chemistry*. I offered her a ride home and she accepted. We talked outside her house until 3 A.M, until we kissed passionately and she asked "What do you want Joe?" I said "I don´t know"(just to piss her off) but I finally said, I care about you a lot. She told me that she wanted us to start dating again, so we did, after a few dates we started kissing again, and more passionately until more heavy stuff happened. We had sex 8 days ago. She was always telling me how much she missed me, how much she loved me, etc. Everything was Really fine until friday night.
Her birthday. She started sort of ignoring me, (but apologizing for doing it at times) And I kept saying it was ok, She danced with her friends(girls) etc. We went to a club but at first the stupid bouncer didn´t want to let me in because I was under 25. (I´m 22, look like 19), and My girlfriend is 21, looks younger too, but the club only has this policy for guys. Her older sister started fighting with the bouncer to let me in, because of her sister´s birthday, etc, and the bouncer wouldnt still let me in, until the owner (who happened to be there) saw us and told the bouncer to let me in. So we did. There she was kind of cold, and weird, but I tried to ignore it. It went that way for all of the night.
Next day (two days ago) she was still kind of cold, and the same thing happened yesterday, when me and her family went to my beach house to have a good day and eat her birthday cake. She was a bit more friendly but still cold, and that sort of bothered me.
So finally today, I asked her if she wanted to have lunch with me, she agreed and we went to the mall, I bought myself some t-shirts for summer, she helped me choose them, and finally I went with her to her accounting class, but she was still being kind of cold, and I got bored and left. (I told her I wanted to go to starbucks with her, to talk about some stuff) She agreed. A few minutes ago I received a call. It was her telling me that she needed to go somewhere with her sister, but maybe we could go later (tonight) or maybe tomorrow for a coffee.
I think she knows what´s coming. I don´t really want to dump her, but I do not longer feel comfortable with her anymore. I get bored because she is being cold, and she doesnt even want o kiss me anymore because of a stupid thing she has in her lips. (she always gets them when she is stressed or around finals) and she didn´t mind a few months before if we kissed, but now she seems to mind.
Pic of how her lips look like right now: http://dentalresource.org/coldsore.jpg
This is really painful to me, but I guess this is the best thing to do. It would be worse if she dumped me, or to keep playing her games. I know this is recent, but I´d rather end it now than wait a week to see if she "changes her mind" or whatever. I will be really happy if I receive some advice. Thanks =) !
Summary: I want to dump my girlfriend because she is being cold and boring, yet I still have feelings for her.
Extra info: The first time we broke up, she mentioned about me hiding my blackberry from her, and she found out I was texting with a girl. (even though I didn´t really care about her, I knew she liked me) I still think it was because this girl, who happens to only be a friend, was being a lot warmer and caring that my girlfriend at that moment) I don´t know if I should believe her, but she told me that by the time we broke up for the first time, she didn´t really care anymore if I texted that girl, because she was already bored.
=( I wonder what´s going to happen later or tomorrow... I really like her but I have to be strong.
We broke up on Feb 22th night, I kinda forced the break up because I couldn't stand her anymore. She had become kind of cold and got mad at everything. The weekend before, I had spent it with my friends at the beach. She got mad because I didn't take her with me, even though I had asked her and she said, "it's ok, go with your friends"
I told her I wasn´t her slave, and she shouldn´t be mad if I wanted to spend my weekend alone with my friends, and she finally said, "Don´t worry I´m not that mad anymore, I wrongly thought that you would prefer going with me."
I told her I wouldn´t get mad if she did it with her friends and that there was no reason for her to be mad. She finally said she wasn´t mad anymore.
We talked for a while (long story short), I asked her if she still wanted to be my girlfriend. She kept saying "I don´t know", while I said, "I don´t know means no to me, I want a concrete answer, yes or no?" until she started crying and we hugged, and she said I didn´t care about her, I stopped being romantic to her, didn´t care about little details and she wasn´t confortable with me anymore. "Maybe we got lost in the routine"
I agreed and told her I felt the same. But i didn´t believe in giving us time, instead I only wanted a yes or a no. She said "I really don´t know", and I said: "What do you want Jenn?" "I DO know what i want, I only need to know what you want. Because we can give it a try, but I want you to change completely, I want it ALL from you, not just a little bit"
She didn´t say anything, so I finally said, "Ok, I get it. But I only wanted to hear a yes or no". She finally said no, and I said, It´s ok, Here, take your stuff (including a cell phone I had in my car). She got surprised and said, "wait, I still want to talk with you. I don´t want you to drift apart."
I said it was ok, but I had to go, and the last words I heard from her that night was: "Our love was really special for me." And she kissed me until I said good bye.
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Three days with no contact, and suddenly we meet again at a mutual friend´s birthday party. It was awkward at first, but we started talking and *instant chemistry*. I offered her a ride home and she accepted. We talked outside her house until 3 A.M, until we kissed passionately and she asked "What do you want Joe?" I said "I don´t know"(just to piss her off) but I finally said, I care about you a lot. She told me that she wanted us to start dating again, so we did, after a few dates we started kissing again, and more passionately until more heavy stuff happened. We had sex 8 days ago. She was always telling me how much she missed me, how much she loved me, etc. Everything was Really fine until friday night.
Her birthday. She started sort of ignoring me, (but apologizing for doing it at times) And I kept saying it was ok, She danced with her friends(girls) etc. We went to a club but at first the stupid bouncer didn´t want to let me in because I was under 25. (I´m 22, look like 19), and My girlfriend is 21, looks younger too, but the club only has this policy for guys. Her older sister started fighting with the bouncer to let me in, because of her sister´s birthday, etc, and the bouncer wouldnt still let me in, until the owner (who happened to be there) saw us and told the bouncer to let me in. So we did. There she was kind of cold, and weird, but I tried to ignore it. It went that way for all of the night.
Next day (two days ago) she was still kind of cold, and the same thing happened yesterday, when me and her family went to my beach house to have a good day and eat her birthday cake. She was a bit more friendly but still cold, and that sort of bothered me.
So finally today, I asked her if she wanted to have lunch with me, she agreed and we went to the mall, I bought myself some t-shirts for summer, she helped me choose them, and finally I went with her to her accounting class, but she was still being kind of cold, and I got bored and left. (I told her I wanted to go to starbucks with her, to talk about some stuff) She agreed. A few minutes ago I received a call. It was her telling me that she needed to go somewhere with her sister, but maybe we could go later (tonight) or maybe tomorrow for a coffee.
I think she knows what´s coming. I don´t really want to dump her, but I do not longer feel comfortable with her anymore. I get bored because she is being cold, and she doesnt even want o kiss me anymore because of a stupid thing she has in her lips. (she always gets them when she is stressed or around finals) and she didn´t mind a few months before if we kissed, but now she seems to mind.
Pic of how her lips look like right now: http://dentalresource.org/coldsore.jpg
This is really painful to me, but I guess this is the best thing to do. It would be worse if she dumped me, or to keep playing her games. I know this is recent, but I´d rather end it now than wait a week to see if she "changes her mind" or whatever. I will be really happy if I receive some advice. Thanks =) !
Summary: I want to dump my girlfriend because she is being cold and boring, yet I still have feelings for her.
Extra info: The first time we broke up, she mentioned about me hiding my blackberry from her, and she found out I was texting with a girl. (even though I didn´t really care about her, I knew she liked me) I still think it was because this girl, who happens to only be a friend, was being a lot warmer and caring that my girlfriend at that moment) I don´t know if I should believe her, but she told me that by the time we broke up for the first time, she didn´t really care anymore if I texted that girl, because she was already bored.
=( I wonder what´s going to happen later or tomorrow... I really like her but I have to be strong.