"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was think about "tone of voice", and how important it is when communicating with girls. I had a friend who used to talk to every girl like he was already sleeping with them. He talked in "hushed tones". Most men talk AT women, and not TO them. This is a sure fire recipe for friendship, if you ask me. So it's "hushed tones" for the DJ's, and higher tones, for the friend....
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So it's "hushed tones" for the DJ's, and higher tones, for the friend....
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I'm not so sure about that one. I'm pretty loud and obnoxious. I get noticed quite a bit.

It's hard to get noticed or stand out when you're always talking in "hushed tones"
 
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Originally posted by VinceGallo
I was think about "tone of voice", and how important it is when communicating with girls. I had a friend who used to talk to every girl like he was already sleeping with them. He talked in "hushed tones". Most men talk AT women, and not TO them. This is a sure fire recipe for friendship, if you ask me. So it's "hushed tones" for the DJ's, and higher tones, for the friend....
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Interesting topic.

I don't think vocals are talked about enough on these boards. I do exercises everyday with my voice and breathing so that I'm on top of my verbal game. When I'm in my car I like to belt out songs at the top of my voice. You'll notice that after you do this your voice will be deeper and more seductive... no bs. Also for breathing exercises, try breathing out as much air as possible in one breath.. do this a few times. Read the paper out loud to get a smoother speaking voice. Freestyle rap to get quicker word turnovers...
 
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When you lower your voice to a person you have to get more intimate with them. I agree with Vince. Bringing your voice down requires the female to get closer and its as if you're sharing a moment together. This can help your "game" or what have you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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that's what I meant....it forces her to get closer...even if what you're saying is total BS small talk, she'll feel you're sharing something special with her....add some good solid eye contact and body language, and you're all set...
this doesn't mean you shouldn't be loud or obnoxious at times, especially in groups, women love that too...shows manliness
 
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