"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Told her that...

PeterCrouch

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Me and this gal were talking and i told her that i prefer a challenge than someone whose all over me!

This is how the convo went.... (we were talking about this gal whose all over me)

me - i prefer a challenge and not someone whose really into me

her - oo learning a few things about you here

me - that i prefer a challenge?

her - yup

me - dont you find it annoying tho when a guy just keeps going on and on, and cleary show signs of intrest? isnt it a lil put off?

her - depends whether i like him i suppose

me - true, but ive been known to really like girls, and do so much to get them intrested in me when there cleary not, that when i finally do get them intrested, i forget about them, theres no fun left lol

her - hmm i see where ur coming from

her again - so u've learnt from past experinces?

me - yeh i suppose so, i just find it a major turn on that after a good night or date with a girl, that there not all over me and desperate for another date, it leaves a challenge there for me

her - yep i agree i think. makes u want thme more that they arnt wanting u

her again - if you see what i mean!

me - yeh totally! (moved the convo onto something she was looking for in a mag)

dunno if i should of done this, does it matter? how will it change her behaviour?

also on a side note, im a lil older than her, and shes sometimes shes asking me questions about sex and stuff "from a guys perspective?" like tonite she was looking for something in a magazine to ask a guys opinion on it (she didnt find what she was looking for but she said shed ask me when she does)

does this mean anything?

thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well at this point it means you are having a conversation with her.

Ask her out if you want to find out if she likes you.
 

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Cheers for the smart ass reply, what i wanted to know is how will she take this?

iam intrested in her, and just wondering if theres any signs or things i should be looking out for?

Like next week im out with her and her friends, cinema and a meal!

Is she now gonna be thinking that once ive had here that id lose intrest in her, will she be more difficult to get?

Please help

Ta
 

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Clear your mind of all those thoughts. You will never know how she's going to respond to anything you dish out to her unless you actually go ahead and dish it out and pay attention to her response. All the questions you have regarding her exists only because you do not know her well enough. It's normal. But if it's going to hold you back, then you better try and get rid of them.

Go ahead and do whatever it is that you would do to gain her interest. Then allow her to choose to be interested in you. If she doesn't respond positively, then I would ask you if you thought your approach was lame. If you think it can be improved, then do it. If you don't know how to improve it, then I suggest you pay a little more attention to what makes the girl you're going after tick.
 

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Women are not logical creatures.. They are creatures of habit and emotional ones at that... If you were expecting them to make a chess like response to your move, think again..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PeterCrouch

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Alright then, so what do you guys think she is thinking about me after that comment?
 

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She's thinking:

"After 173 posts? This guy is an overanalyzing AFC"

At least I'm thinking that...

People who overanalyze need work on their inner game. Develop true confidence and you won't nitpick like this. Like my reply or not, it's for your own good.

Cheers!
 

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Originally posted by Blatant truth
She's thinking:

"After 173 posts? This guy is an overanalyzing AFC"

At least I'm thinking that...

People who overanalyze need work on their inner game. Develop true confidence and you won't nitpick like this. Like my reply or not, it's for your own good.

Cheers!
Blatant truth, you really tell it like it is, don't you?


LoL:crackup:
 

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Alright so im over analizing, oh well what a shame nevermind!

And i cant spell either, oh well what a shame nevermind!

Anyway, should i be expecting her to act alot more elusive now?

Like before i said this she made plans for us to go for a chinese/curry next week (she was going to go as a friday night ritual, and she said, you can join me) and she also told me next week when i go out with her and her friends that she wants to go see a film but not the one that everyone else wants to see (one that we have both already seen) but one that we havent seen and she said something like "we should go together, and leave them"
 

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Anyway, should i be expecting her to act alot more elusive now?
You shouldn't be expecting any goddam thing. Have you learnt nothing on here?!

It isn't about coming on here, giving us a run-through of every discussion you have with a girl and expecting people to give you cut-and-dried answers. It's about being in a position of power yourself, so that you either take what you want or walk away with no regrets.

Women are hard enough to understand 'on the ground', let alone second hand through a computer. Only 8% of communication is in what is said - the rest is in intonation, body language etc. We get none of that, so how are we supposed to know what she wants?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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