"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Told her I could undo her bra strap with 1 hand, she let me try but i failed, DLV?

pikachu_69

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LOL I was on a date with a girl the other week and I had my left arm around her and tried to unwrap a stick of gum with only my right hand. I eventually did it but she asked if I needed any help, I said no and I could do a lot of things 1 handed, she laughed and said 'oh really like what else?' (she was inferring about me masturbating with 1 hand) I said 'yeah, I can undo your brastrap with 1 hand..'

She became intrigued and let me try in the quiet bar BUT I am right handed and my left arm was around her so naturally I would have to use my left hand (my weaker hand) so I wasn't able to do it, even though I told her from the start I'm right handed it seemed like an excuse. Is the fact I made this statement and failed to deliver made me lose serious points in her eyes?

I can do it with my right hand but it just was awkward turning to face her then sticking my right arm behind her back then she said everyone in the bar was looking so I stopped.. shame she wasn't sitting to my right.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The way you are telling us, you're the one putting lower value on yourself.

It's no big deal, it was meant to be fun and entertainment anyway. Laugh it off and get back to work. Tell her, "I'll get you next time". It's the way you carry yourself. If you make a big deal out of it, your body language will show and she will know you are insecure. If you don't see it as an issue, it's cool.
 

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pikachu_69 said:
She became intrigued and let me try in the quiet bar BUT I am right handed and my left arm was around her so naturally I would have to use my left hand (my weaker hand) so I wasn't able to do it, even though I told her from the start I'm right handed it seemed like an excuse. Is the fact I made this statement and failed to deliver made me lose serious points in her eyes?
This is so not a serious question. Right?
 

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It might, yea. I mean seriously bro it's not that hard to undo a bra strap with ANY hand... just squeeze and release :)
 

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This was one of the first things a girl taught me so I don't even think I'd mention that as a special or unique skill. :rock:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ZenGodMod

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Lol its a bra not rocket science. No points lose but she may think your full of it.

Don't ever say you can do something and you can't. Doesn't work with your buddies, it doesn't work on girls.
 

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Who can't unstrap a bra with one hand? Seriously, it's the easiest thing ever. It's only difficult when you're making out with a girl and she's got a shirt on where it's hard to get to or something. You didn't even have any distractions.

Practice!
 

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I was doing it with my weaker hand my left hand, have you ever tried to do it with your non-writing hand?

She had a top on so I had to come in from the front putting my hand behind so it made it more difficult.

I think my question is more about saying you can do something and not being able to deliver. That I imagine lowers your value in her eyes?
 

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I guess yes since this shows inexperience... Rather than that... No...
How could you fail btw? :p J/k, practice practice practice! Yeah it's easy with both hands!
 

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WTF!?!?!?!?

Are you asking if you failed? What did you fail at?

Ok so you couldn't do it, now take both hands and take the bra off. What you failed to realize is that she was wearing a victorian era bra that had a "Miki Miki" design.

What I'm trying to say is you failed to play with an opportunity and moment...INSTEAD you were thinking about whether you failed or not. It's not about failing it's about having a great experience and vibing off each other. That situation could've lead to so many different things.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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More of an lol.
 

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pikachu69 said:
I was doing it with my weaker hand my left hand, have you ever tried to do it with your non-writing hand?
Yes. I'm left handed but probably better at it with my right. Then again I'm weirdly ambidextrous.

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Next tell her you can take her panties off without any hands!
Yeah, set realistic goals! :)
 

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Your first problem was using a pokemon character for your username. Your second was lying to her. Your third was not telling her you would like to try again in your car. Your fourth was posting on here about it.
 
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