"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm 20 years old and haven't "lived" yet. I have no friends and no gf..my social life is non-existent. I've tried meeting new people and implying that we hang out, but they all seem to be in my same boat, if not worse!

Now these past months I've gone from bitter to enthusiastic and people seem to notice. I tell my fair share of stories of my short relationships with women and the stupid stuff I think about (basically, me ****ing up lol ) and they seem to be entertained by that. It seems to me they got NOTHING to talk about. Usually I am the one doing most of the talking, and keep in mind that I barely get out of the house! I literally don't got much to say!

I'm going nuts..I need some FUN but don't know how.

Anybody in my same boat?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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muhuwahaha said:
...I'm going nuts..I need some FUN but don't know how.
Stop depending on electronic gadgets for entertainment.
 

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I know some people like that.

I cryptically warn them: " See you at the Lounge in 20 years"
 

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that's because they are society zombies and are afraid to leave their comfort zones to experience exciting things ! ! ! ! !
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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if you do pick up a sport, make it something out of the norm... I've always liked motocross, fencing, paintball, etc... never really got into football, baseball, basketball or soccer. That's way too common.

And Hemingway once said.. "There are only 3 real sports: Bullfighting, Mountaineering, and Motorsports. All the rest are merely games."
 

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personally, I only hang out with people's whose comfort zone is really hard to reach because reaching my comfort zone is really hard to do.

I do rock climbing, sword fighting, travelling, jumping off of waterfalls, and many other things. if they won't do some of the things that I do then I don't hang out iwth them that much.

Most people are boring, but search out the one-quarter of people that are fun to hang out with.

btw if you really want to try a sport try western martial arts, also known as medival reenactors of warfare (taking huge swords and spears and battling out on a field of thousands). I'm sure that you can google it. I'm in it and believe me there is some crazy sh!t that happens at those things.

comic_relief
 

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I was thinking of joining bowling but my friend said you get no "rush" from bowling.

Rush? Drop a ball on your toe, you'll be throbbing and seeing visions!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DonJuan11 said:
I was thinking of joining bowling but my friend said you get no "rush" from bowling.

Rush? Drop a ball on your toe, you'll be throbbing and seeing visions!
I work at a bowling alley. There's usually a lot of hotties in the leagues, plus there's always beer. Good place to mix it up in my book. :up:
 

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I agree with you, people are monotinous shades off dull gray. I like vibrant colors like fushia. I do some traditional sports, I run track, box and to mma. My hobby is drag racing (the only sport that requires 2 balls) and restoring old cars. Life may be boring but its what you make of it in the end.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
I was thinking of joining bowling but my friend said you get no "rush" from bowling.

Rush? Drop a ball on your toe, you'll be throbbing and seeing visions!
You and your mancrush....
 

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Master Bates said:
You and your mancrush....
It's really different world when you are with a cool guy. They get all the action and are all about money or women.
 

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I don't know if I ever had problems having 'fun'. It seems like there are two different kinds of fun. There is the fun that is acceptable in society and makes you cool (partying, etc...), and then there's the fun that's fun to you. Sometimes they both are the same and sometimes they both don't agree with each other. I don't know about you guys, but I don't think I could ever get bored. Keep me in the house with electronics, that's fine, anyone with imagination will find their fun. Go outside and play basketball? I'd have fun doing that too. Do anything out in the wilderness, it's all good. Keep me inside with a bunch of books... I'd definitely have fun(I wish I could read more). Push me in front of the piano... I'm set. Some of this stuff might not make me cool, and I definitely won't be overflowing with awesome stories, but since when were either of those a prerequisite for having fun or living life? Not trying to start an argument but just some food for thought. It seems a little baffling to me that people would have trouble when it comes to fun. You only need a little imagination with a curious mind and you're set.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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