"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Today's approach and results...

latinnova

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So today I went into a fast food restaurant close to my work to grab a quick lunch. As soon as I walk in I was stunned by two beautiful woman who were standing in front of me in line. One had an immaculate body. Then my mind started churning and I started to thinking "What can I associate with the current moment to introduce myself and have a discussion with the ladies." Well, one of them looked like a girl I had gone to high school with, so I thought I would go with that approach.

I didn't initiate contact immediately, I sat down and ate my meal. When I was done I approached with a friendly smile and said "Hey... you look so familiar to me, is your name _____?" She said yes, and I thought "Holy hell, no way." I asked if she used to be friends with so and so, she said "Yes.." Soo.... it really was her, hahah... We started talking about the past and what was going on. She had invited me one summer, during high school break, over to her house to have an "Enjoyable time" since her parents were out of town. Unfortunately I was never able to get a ride over there. We didn't discuss that, lol, I just remembered it. Anyhow, we continued talking and things were going good. She showed very high interest... listening closely, good eye contact, playing with the hair, leaning in etc... then she mentioned her fiance far into the conversation.... "Oh noooo....." I thought. Its all good, can't win them every time. Continued talking then said I had to get back to work.

Anyhow, for a brief second I was going to do this "Well, it was great seeing you. Since we were close friends, here is my number if you ever wanted to catch up on the past." Well, I squashed that idea as soon as it had appeared, I would never, nor will never threaten a close relationship. So I said goodbye and went on my way. My god, she had taken care of herself very well though, smoking hot body and face. But, if she is not single, then I'm not going to press anything to anyone who is in a deep relationship. Not my style, nor do I want the man on the other side of the relationship going through what I had to go through with my ex-wife. What makes man a man are his integrity and principles. If you don't have that, you are nothing. And before you ask, I am awful at looking for rings, I always forget. Plus their hands are all over the place and I don't want to make it obvious I am looking for it by following her hands like a cat follows a laser.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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mangotot

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You failed to ask the woman out. Therefore you missed an opportunity. But integrity and principles mean more then banging p****. Great attitude.
 

Çharismo

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She was enjoying the attention hence all the hair-play and all the signs you were getting. Good job on sticking to your values. It's not worth it to pursue females in committed relationships like that. Keep your conscience clean. :rockon:
 

nolesfan

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I agree, karma is a *****.
No telling what will happen in the future, but as we know not all relationships work out and she will see you as someone she respects because of how you handled the situation and may find you in the future if things dont happen to work with her current fiance.

I feel you played the situation well
 

Colossus

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Yep, never pursue taken women. It shows weakness and a scavenger mentality. Real men hunt their own game, not poach someone else's.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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