"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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To those who say "I could'nt think of what to say"

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Too many times I come here and read the new posts only to find "I wanted to approach her, but I had nothing to say". It's pissing me off already.
I mean, sometimes the people even have the motivation, but I dont really understand how you can't think of what to say. Well, for all of you people, I'm going to post now a simple guide of different places and ideas of things to say. These are some that I've used, and worked for me- in my experiences. Hopefully it'll give an idea on the approach, and some things to say.

1st of all, a simple "hi" will do. But, in the beginning, I guess its easier to ask a question or comment on your surroundings. Thats it. Comment on your surroundings. Whats so hard about that? Although some people may not look too friendly, the truth is- they actually enjoy meeting new people. I got some examples that I've come across.


On the street.

Hey, do you know where the best place to eat around here is?
Oh, yeah, thres this Thai place on Lex.
Oh really, do you like thai? I'm more into chinese.
Oh my god I love chinese.....blah.....whats your name?

--Ok, this has to be delivered right, and it doenst always work because she may be in a rush. However, I've done it. And I got the number, so give it a go.


Bookstore.

Hey, have you read (whatever book)?
yeah! I loved it, you should get it...
Oh really, what types of books are you into?
I like love stories, and I love mysteries....blah blah...

--Then you can lead the convo from there to movies, music, whatever. You can walk around with her after that looking at books. Personally, I love bookstore pick ups. I get a lot of success here. Theres always nice babies there, and theyre always receptive to talk about books.

Cd Store.

Have you picked up the latest (insert cd here)?
Yeah! its amazing! you should really check out their other albums.....blah....
yeah theyre good, you know what else I love, (insert whatever you love)

--Lead the conversation from there. On music stores- There arent always such hot babes there, but its a fairly easy pick up.

Clothing Store. Another store?:)

Hey, I'm buying my cousin a gift for their birthday, what do you think of these pants?
They're nice, but I love these ones(she shows you).
Oh wow those are nice, do yo have any other gift recomendations for a 16 year old girl?
yeah, I think she'll love perfume.....blah....or flowers....blah..

--Yeah, clothing stores usually have the hottest chicks, but they're not as easy as book stores or Cd stores. I've had the most success in abercrombie shoppers, and there are always hot chicks in A & F.

In school.

Hey, how'd you do on finals?
Global was easy, but I think english will be hard. I dont know anything.
English is my best subject!. Tell you what, why dont you come study with us tomorow, I can teach it to you.

--I dont date girls from my school, but I do study with them. They'll generally like to study with you if you know the material. After the study date invite them to stay for a movie or something.

Coffee shops/Eateries.
On line.
Hey, I've never been here, what do you recommend?
Hmmm.... The Lattes in this place are really good....
Really? I think I'll check that out. I usually go with the Hot chocolate though. What do you think?
I love hot chocolate! You know who makes the BEST hot chocolate?....the place on Park and whatever.....

--I actually used this one to success. I also did another one similair to this and got another number. I'd still recommend stores over these though..

Whoa. Colorful. Well. There are some that are field tested by me. Keep in mind, that there are not lines to memorize and spit out like a robot. This post is just so that you get a feel on how to make a comment on whats going on around you, and to talk about it. Apply it to wherever you go.
--Post anything else you guys can come up with!

BTW, Im in Blue, and shes in Deep Pink. My commentary is in brown.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Layla

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Originally posted by Nocturnal
If you are relaxed, you will know what to say.
Now, if I'm relaxed I know what to say. But when I was just starting, I wasnt smooth or anything and I had some default openers.

I dont have any now, but thats just because I practiced more and more until it becamer natural. For some people, if theyre relaxed, they still wont know 'what to say'.
 

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Originally posted by Nocturnal
If you are relaxed, you will know what to say.
Yeah this is good. I don't do well with preplanned stuff. Plus Layla, the women you meet sure are nice.

btw, openers are good. I'd say set smaller goals with layla's openers. Try holding convos for 10 seconds. Then 30 seconds. Then 1 minute...etc. Works wonders
 

Layla

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Originally posted by Kerensky
btw, openers are good. I'd say set smaller goals with layla's openers. Try holding convos for 10 seconds. Then 30 seconds. Then 1 minute...etc. Works wonders
Exactly. Start off like this, and over time it will all be natural and flowing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You have good maturity for a person your age.

Sorry, that was very patronizing well-friggin-done. Too many people cite this as their major flaw.
 
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