"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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To those who have dated 9's and 10's

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floydb25 said:
Bigneil: What do you mean? Any examples? I have an idea but don't want to assume.
1) Date girl A for 2 months.
2) Fall for girl A.
3) Get dumped by girl A.
4) Work out and improve but get oneitis for girl A.
5) Find girl B who is actually much hotter than girl A.
6) Still think about girl A but date girl B for 2 months.
7) Girl B eludes you and you suddenly realize what you stand to lose.
8) Fall for girl B and forget girl A.

Point 7 is mentioned in Art of Seduction as a critical point and one we need to master (as in NC/LC, make them miss you, etc.).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What I meant was, the bad things she used to do. Do you mean you're falling in love with a vision of who they used to be / claim to be / could be - then find out that it isn't reality, and lose interest?
 

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Yo'Mama said:
If she had small tits or no ass she wouldn't be a 10!!! :crazy:
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Not true. See-Natalie Portman
10 is the most subjective ranking: one man's 10 is another man's 9 and vice-versa. 10 just means that she has a certain something that bumps her up a notch for you.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
There's something subjective to it no doubt, like I would rather have Kim Kardashian over Gisele, but I can admit that both are 10's.
Kim Kardashian a 10?!

No.

SHe's more like a 5...maybe a 6

want proof?

Are you sure?

:)

Ok..don't say I didn't warn you.

This is what she looks like without makeup....quite a contrast. Hollywood makeup artists have SERIOUS skills.

http://nationwideblast.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/no-make-kim-kardashian.jpg
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
There's something subjective to it no doubt, like I would rather have Kim Kardashian over Gisele, but I can admit that both are 10's.
Sorry to quibble guys, but yes that was my point. Pair implied that a good rack was important for him but then said that Natalie Portman would still be a 10. If it's subjective then by definition Portman can't be a 10 for Pair because she has small breasts. I just want to get this straight. I thought 10 meant somebody who is your own idea of perfection.

Floyd, you always talk sense and of course you're right. The only part I disagree with is the implication that single = miserable. I'm thinking a lot about that at the moment.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yo: I didn't mean to imply that being single means being bitter. What I meant was, people who focus solely on looks, try to change others, never lower their standards, keep chasing after the same type, and running into the same problems usually end up becoming single, frustrated, bitter, distrusting, etc. That's because they spent all their time chasing after something that doesn't exist, and trying to change them into something they're not. All that wasted time and effort is draining.

It's better to just find a decent, cute one in the near-term. Infatuation never lasts anyway. That's all the hot girls have to offer.
 

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Listen to Floyd he knows his stuff. Most guys on here, their idea of 10s I wouldn't even do if I was lonely/horny as hell and they offered it to me on a silver platter. Find women that YOU like.

I'm not in this game for emotional validation/ego or to look good to society.

In fact, while I tend to like pretty/cute/hot women, I HATE the high maintenance, dolled up clothes, over-used make up, fake tan look in general. No more attractive than a pear shaped fattie to me.
 
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