"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To the small-truck owners, do you drive one because of its petro-masculinity?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
... the booming appeal of bigger and more brutish trucks reflects “a crisis of masculinity ... Nothing could be more emasculating than driving a minivan. So you want the vehicle that’s going to maintain your performative masculinity.”
I had thought that it was the DJ thing to have a van: :rolleyes:

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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zekko

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Nothing's more handy than a pickup truck. I don't currently own one, but I did for a good deal of my life. I admit one of the reasons I liked driving them is because of the associated masculine image. But they're also incredibly useful.

If they've fallen off, it's probably because most people drive SUVs now. Which is kind of a compromise between owning a car and a truck, and whatever you're hauling is going to stay dry no matter what the weather. Funny thing is, I remember when there was a campaign to get rid of SUVs because of their environmental impact, but they're more popular now than ever. Maybe with the new proposed subsidies for electric cars, they'll try to phase them out again.
 

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Yes, Masculine pride, added safety for larger vehicle mass, and your vision distance is farther and more accurate.
Mental recognition and preparation time is essential to properly face an approaching danger…
 

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I find the rise of pickup trucks and SUVs to be absurd.

Excerpt from the article....

"Until the 1980s, almost every pickup truck sold in the U.S. had a single cab, meaning seating for three max in a single bench-style seat, with a bed that was eight feet long for a full-sized long-bed vehicle. That old no-frills working-style truck is fading into history."

A pickup truck is not supposed to be a family hauler. A pickup truck is supposed to haul work materials. I don't like the big extended cabs with smaller beds than the older style trucks from the 1980s and 1990s.

People are citing trucks and SUVs as needed for hauling families around, which is comical. People are child bearing age are having fewer children. A Honda Accord or Toyota Camry is perfectly fine for hauling the typical mom's 1.7 children. While I can understand minivans declining, I can't understand sedans declining because they were fine when women were having 1.9 children in 1987 but not fine for 1.7 children today.
 
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