To the serious - How to Be More Fun!

[izza]

Taking life too seriously is a bad thing. Insert some spontaneity into everything you do. SEXSEXSEXMEWANT.

Let me guess at a few things about you, any overserious sosuave members. I'm guessing you are shy, or if not shy at least grievously concerned with what people think of you. The thought of disturbing a stranger is abhorrent. God forbid you do something stupid or vulgar in front of other people. The notion of blatantly hitting on strange women is just unthinkable. I don't know if that's you, but that was and sometimes is me.

Lack of humor comes from a lack of imagination. It happens to people whose lives are routine and boring, and who are TERRIFIED of people's reactions. What a SH***Y way to live life!

Learn to ask yourself "what random thing do I feel like doing right now?" Once you learn to answer this question in any situation, you become a far more fun person; you teach yourself how to be spontaneous. It works.

Right now, you there who's reading me blather about how to be fun: do something ludicrous, or embarrassing or just plain stupid. I can't tell you what to do because you have to learn to make it up for yourself. Stop reading, DO IT RIGHT NOW!

Don't read on until you've done something!

Good, personally, I started hitting myself on the head. Go do something random in public tomorrow.

Two exercises that worked for me. I felt like it one day in the library so I started walking around backwards, not making any eye contact with anyone. It was so much fun - everyone was staring at me, and when I was done I laughed for a good 15 minutes. The other day I decided to stick my tongue out at every hot girl I saw to get over my AFC terror of them. That was fun. If anyone out there is too chicken**** to do either of those things, they need to go outside and do both of them asap.

Final advice: what are your dreams in life? What do you want to be? Why are you on this earth? (and don't say to get women because that is the worst answer you could possibly give.)

These are very serious questions, but ask them and try to answer them. You'll begin to realize that what people think of you is a grain of salt, and begin to take life far more lightly.

Shake things up, and stop being such a narcissist, too concerned with vetting your prim and proper image to have any spontanaity. Always remember, my sons: OOGELY BOOGELY!

Izza

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Two exercises that worked for me. I felt like it one day in the library so I started walking around backwards, not making any eye contact with anyone. It was so much fun - everyone was staring at me, and when I was done I laughed for a good 15 minutes. The other day I decided to stick my tongue out at every hot girl I saw to get over my AFC terror of them. That was fun. If anyone out there is too chicken**** to do either of those things, they need to go outside and do both of them asap.

....uhh, no thanks.

 

[izza]

Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
....uhh, no thanks.

It takes courage and imagination to live your life how you want, and not give a **** what people think. If you think you're too "cool" to do these things, you may want to consider the possibility that you are simply too narcissistic. But hey man, I'm not trying to flame. It doesn't bother me if you think this idea is lame - everyone on this site is here to find things that work and fit them, and no idea can fit everyone. I only posted it because it fit me. Best of luck,

Izza

 

[Mojo604]

I'll try that when I want to come off as an attention-manwhoore-jackass.

 

[Virtú]

Spontaneity training is an interesting idea.

But do you have an explanation for how someone can not register fun or not have an interest in fun - a lack of response to otherwise pleasurable simuli ... think Eric Cartman after he meets the ass-faced people, or Bart Simpson after he sells his soul ... emotionally impotent.

Those are fictional examples, I know, but they describe my personal predicament fairly well: intellectually aware and comprehending, but emotionally unresponsive.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Two exercises that worked for me. I felt like it one day in the library so I started walking around backwards, not making any eye contact with anyone. It was so much fun - everyone was staring at me, and when I was done I laughed for a good 15 minutes. The other day I decided to stick my tongue out at every hot girl I saw to get over my AFC terror of them. That was fun. If anyone out there is too chicken**** to do either of those things, they need to go outside and do both of them asap.

well i dont know if i would do this but i dont see a problem with it, i think im quite funny and people say i am, how ever i also get people (mainly my brother) saying why do i embaras myself in public. But i dont get embarased by what i do so how can i be embarasing myself.

 

[bud_2005]

The fact that you laughed for 15 minutes at yourself for walking backwards tells me you are a weirdo and I don't see any girl gettin with you.

 

[de silva]

Originally posted by Virtú


Those are fictional examples, I know, but they describe my personal predicament fairly well: intellectually aware and comprehending, but emotionally unresponsive.

Fvck bro do I know that feeling. That has been me the past three years. Probably four. Workaholic intellectual fvcking ape. It's life completely azz-backwards.

 

[de silva]

Originally posted by bud_2005
The fact that you laughed for 15 minutes at yourself for walking backwards tells me you are a weirdo and I don't see any girl gettin with you.

You do it as a once off as a "who gives a fvck what people think exercise" and I don't think that makes you a weirdo. Do it all the time, on the other hand, and spend 15 minutes laughing about it, well, you're changing, sure, but not into something desirable.

 

[Brad324]

yesterday, I had some fun... A girl from work needed a ride home. It was kind of cold out so the windows were frosted up, and I used my scraper to scrape off the drivers' side of the windshield. She complained that she couldn't see out her side, so I said "it's probably better that way" and stepped on the gas and fishtailed out of the parking lot. She looked at me like "ok, jokes over right?" but then I made my eyes go psycho and said "I... think I'm going insane" and she's like "you're kidding right?" Anyways, I freaked her out for a while. It was fun. For me anyways. I don't know about her, but I definitely got her heart pumping.

 

[cobrajoe]

i love doing this random stuff

back in high school, i was in the marching band, we had the hats with feathers and everything. when we were waitin for our turn to march, a few of us (all trombone players) would walk around petting the feathers on our hats. and talk to the feathers on our hats. and stare at people funny for not petting the feathers on their own hats.

that was a great time, and still a great story to tell

 

[izza]

The fact that you laughed for 15 minutes at yourself for walking backwards tells me you are a weirdo and I don't see any girl gettin with you.

Who'da thunk that women are attracted to a guy who's spontaneous, original, imaginative, and who enjoys life? NTM one who's smokin' hot I guess it's just one of those mysteries of life.

Originally posted by de silva
You do it as a once off as a "who gives a fvck what people think exercise" and I don't think that makes you a weirdo. Do it all the time, on the other hand, and spend 15 minutes laughing about it, well, you're changing, sure, but not into something desirable.

15 minutes on the dot? Um, I was using hyperbole to underline that I thougt people's reactions and my own embarrassment were hilarious. (admittedly, hyperbole doesn't come off well in a written medium).

Look man, you're missing the goal behind the exercise. The goal is NOT TO CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK; so don't tell me that walking around backwards doesn't make you desirable to other people (i.e. they will think something bad about you). The entire point is to learn to do what YOU feel like, even if that makes other people think you're a weirdo or even, god forbid, if it makes you undesirable to some. You should live to entertain yourself, not fit into some mold. Besides, women are attracted to those with spontaneity who are free from society's chains. If you don't FEEL like walking around backwards, then don't. If it makes you laugh, then DO. What makes you desirable is beside the point. The point is to enjoy YOUR LIFE to the fullest. You can't do that always fretting about what the women will think.

If you want to conform, this exercise and the goal behind it aren't for you. It's for people like me who needed a concrete way to add spontaneity to life. I'm glad that I have.

Izza

 

[izza]

Originally posted by Brad324
yesterday, I had some fun... A girl from work needed a ride home. It was kind of cold out so the windows were frosted up, and I used my scraper to scrape off the drivers' side of the windshield. She complained that she couldn't see out her side, so I said "it's probably better that way" and stepped on the gas and fishtailed out of the parking lot. She looked at me like "ok, jokes over right?" but then I made my eyes go psycho and said "I... think I'm going insane" and she's like "you're kidding right?" Anyways, I freaked her out for a while. It was fun. For me anyways. I don't know about her, but I definitely got her heart pumping.

back in high school, i was in the marching band, we had the hats with feathers and everything. when we were waitin for our turn to march, a few of us (all trombone players) would walk around petting the feathers on our hats. and talk to the feathers on our hats. and stare at people funny for not petting the feathers on their own hats.

HAHAHAHAHA, yo, you guys are weird. jk

P.S. Post 69, wahoo!

 

[pootwo]

Hey. Anyone who's slagging off the ideas of this topic should LIGHTEN UP. One thing that annoys me slightly about this site is how up tight & provincial alot of people are.

Hey Izza! & anyone else who likes the idea of this topic...

Have you read the book THE DICE MAN by Luke Rhinehart ?

It's about a man who's had enough of his boring predictible life, so decides to make every decision he makes based on the roll of a dice.

For example, If it's a 1, he'll go to work in scruffy clothes. If it's a 2, he'll call in sick & spend the day pampering himself. If it's a 3, He'll go to the mall & try to seduce a good looking woman, etc.

It's one of the best books i've ever read, & despite being hilairious, it's actually really thought provoking & poses some strong pyschological / philisopical questions.

It sounds right up your ally. check it out.

 

[izza]

LOL,

that sounds like a great book, I'll have to read it sometime. That reminds me, one time I was on campus and I couldn't decide between two places to go for dinner. So, I assigned each a letter, waltzed up to some hot chick, and said "excuse me, can you help me with something? Either say A or B." She looked surprised but bemused, and picked one. I had to run after that, but it seemed to me like a good way to start a conversation in a pinch.

Cheers,

Izza

 

[Jariel]

This sort of thing may be a lot of fun for you and for everyone watching, but if you hope to attract women you need to hang on to your dignity.

Aim to be the king rather than the court jester.

 

[AverageFC]

Thank you, my father

 

[izza]

Originally posted by Jariel
This sort of thing may be a lot of fun for you and for everyone watching, but if you hope to attract women you need to hang on to your dignity.

Aim to be the king rather than the court jester.

I think, I see where you're coming from. Some guys try to pick up women by pulling ridiculous stunts, by becoming attention man*****s, by desperately begging for the woman's attention by humiliating themselves. Indeed, someone like that is acting like a court jester, using humor to please someone else, rather than himself. I don't recommend anyone to try to PU like that.

A jester aims to amuse others - a king aims to amuse himself. I used these exercises to lessen my fear of doing what I, myself, think is funny - to lessen my concern with what others think - to focus, as Anti-Dump said, on ME.

Your imagination, your creativity, your humor are chained down by your terror of losing dignity, chained by your terror of living how you want to live. I am the king of my life because I set the rules for how I live and enjoy my existence - if one woman doesn't like how I do business, I find a better one. I live life and love women to have fun; slowly I'm learning how.

Screw opprobrium, have fun. Discover what you like, then find women who like your fun. Have raging monkey sex with those women. Seems straightforward, no?

Izza

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Some people here need to lighten up, lol. I think this is a good post. If you take yourself too seriously then you become stuck up and your life becomes predictable and boring.

I'll have to try that walking backwards thing sometime, just to see how people react to me.

 

[sfalexi]

I do **** like this every now and then. Just to see people's reactions. Not quite as far as walking backwards, but stuff like I'll walk around with a shirt inside out and see if anyone says anything. Shoes on the wrong feet (not for too long cause it hurts). In the mall I'll walk into Victoria's Secret and start holding up bras and panties to my body as though trying to see which ones will look better.

But mostly just when I'm bored and feel like ****ing with other people's heads.

Alexi