To the Older guys - Should I just get it over with?

[vrad]

Ok guys here is my question to the older crowd.

Should I just get it over with?

I just turned 22 and am a virgin. Well I kinda was "in" a girl barely, when I was 19 and having a drunk ONS but that was only for a few seconds. So basically yea.. I have never really done it with a girl. Everything else, you name it though, I have done it many times.

But I am faced with a dilemma here and am hoping some of you could share your experiences with me and help me figure out what to do.

Should I just do it with anyone(so long as they are not fugly) and get it over with or wait for the right person to come along? Am I hurting myself longer in the long run by waiting? What is your advice to me?
The only thing really holding me back is the fact that if I just lose it to some chick I don't really care about, then it will always be just a physical thing and a good part of me doesnt want to look back on the day I de-virginized 20 years from now about how I lost it to some random chick I don't really care for and probably has already been with several guys before me. Part of me really wants to wait for that right person to come along.... and I thought I found that right person, and we dated for a while, and she was a virgin too and was a person i wanted to lose it too, but then we recently broke up. And virgins at my age are hard to come by it seems.

Any thoughts or comments are appreciated. Thanks.

 

[Sart]

vrad

There is no "one" right girl, there are about 50000. The soul mate thing is Hollywood BS, acted by people who roote anything that moves. If you wait for some girl to give you this great prize you treasure so highly, you will build it up to be something better than it is. You will be too grateful and she wont respect you for it, cause you cant respect someone kissing your ass. (I heard that somewhere).

Considering the divorce rate is 65% and rising for younger people, perhaps you should take a good look and really read what others are saying and think carefully about this. Most people who settle down do so because the time was right, or, the music stopped and they couldn't find a chair.

Sure, have an LTR if you really want but there is no logical reason I can see for saving your seed for ONE. Women dont mind you being a man of the World, hell, it turns them on.

Good luck dude.

 

[vrad]

Thanks for the insight Sart.

I agree there is no one right girl and are actually many.

My problem is mainly just the first time I actually do "it."
A part of me wants to do it with a girl that I care about.. you know one of those girls that makes you tingle when you are around them. And I have dated a couple like that, but it ends after a few months.
A small part of me just wants to get it over with and bang any chick as long as they are not butt ugly. But then it would only be physical. It would be like hooking up with a chick just for ass... and my first time will mean nothing.
Everyone remembers their first kiss, and they rememebr the first time they had sex for the rest of their life.
And when I am out in the bar, I run some decent game. But I look around and I see girls, and soemtimes all I can think about is "I bet she has banged 4 or 5 guys, this one 10, this one 2." And the older I get the higher the number goes for girls.
I guess I just want my first time to be somewhat special, with a person I am really attracted too, and not just some random wh0re.
THanks for listening. ANyone else have a similiar dillemma?

 

[PoloBlue]

yes! you should go ahead and do it! because if you dont, you are going to regret it when your older, it gets harder to meet women later because they are all taken, the best time is now

 

[giartodil]

hay

Hay
I am not an older crowd but I would really like to say something.
just for ass is just for asses.
If you somehow managed to be a virgin till now don’t loose it cheap.
I am not saying be all puffed up about it and look only for a virgin.
Just know you’ve got one body if you don’t wanna **** up don’t’ **** around.
Just because there is something in what you believe in and you are not
The only one who belives that,I think even God would agree with you on that.