"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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to the new guys here...

Jair213

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1. Good job for showing up and trying to learn something about a different perspective on life.

2. Do more research to both sides of the coin. Try to see past the immediate tragedy and the events that unfolded and take the time to read some Rational Male, some MMSL and some ROK, try to achieve your own understanding of red pill truth and by this I mean the very fundamental aspects of Game which are evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology. Game came about through pure empirical research in the field, its not a theory, its a set of practices that work in the real world and it goes way beyond just getting laid, it very clearly lends structure to all intersexual relationships at all life stages for all creatures that call themselves human. It’s the instruction manual to life that nobody ever gave you when you were growing up but should have.

3. Accept that there are a lot of different opinions around here and that this environment is far more nuanced than anything that can be captured by a sound bite. People who take the red pill go through predictable stages of emotional reactions over the span of hours, days, months even years. there is joy, bitterness, anger, comfort and quiet humility. When you hear men and women speak to the experience, take note that they could be in any one of those stages of growth and their opinions will reflect this arc of experience. Please don’t take someone’s anger as emblematic of the red pill truth, it’s just a natural by-product of unplugging.

4. Take responsibility for you life, for your actions and for what happens to you in life. You are not a victim, you are a human with the capacity for higher thought and with a huge capacity for Agency in your life. Learn to exercise that agency and you will enjoy your life far more, you will have more fulfilling relationships with everyone around you and you will feel far better about yourself and the world which you inhabit.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New guys won't understand your abbreviations.

It's a good post... You might want to expound upon "agency" and make it even better.
 

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i like this post, look forward to see the expansion

i'd like to say listen to advice but proceed with caution, you never know how much experience the person giving advice has, the best way to learn is by your own learning. use the advice as a resource, experience it yourself, make any changes you have to.
 
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