To the above average looking guys:

[stuka1939]

STOP RELYING ON YOUR LOOKS TO GET WOMEN:

Too many attractive looking men think their looks alone is going to get hot women and they don't develop their personalities or confidence levels.

As all dating experts have stated: Women are not as visually oriented as men and prefer dominant confident personalities over a nice body or handsome face.

This is evidenced by all the average looking at best looking guys walking around with attractive looking women.

I saw three men last night who were either noticeably overweight, had very average looking faces and receding hairlines with hot women. I see this quite often at other places.

Why were these women with these guys? Money? Probably not. Looks? Nope

Confident and fun personality? Yep

I think average looking guys have an edge over handsome guys because they understand the rules of attraction better.

So, if you are a good-looking guy: Work on your personality as well.

 

[ChapStick]

STOP RELYING ON YOUR LOOKS TO GET WOMEN:

Too many attractive looking men think their looks alone is going to get hot women and they don't develop their personalities or confidence levels.

As all dating experts have stated: Women are not as visually oriented as men and prefer dominant confident personalities over a nice body or handsome face.

This is evidenced by all the average looking at best looking guys walking around with attractive looking women.

I saw three men last night who were either noticeably overweight, had very average looking faces and receding hairlines with hot women. I see this quite often at other places.

Why were these women with these guys? Money? Probably not. Looks? Nope

Confident and fun personality? Yep

I think average looking guys have an edge over handsome guys because they understand the rules of attraction better.

So, if you are a good-looking guy: Work on your personality as well.

Absolutely! BUT don't be surprised by how many women would sleep with guys based on his looks alone, regardless of how boring or stupid his personality is. Then again women like that are usually stupid as well.

 

[stuka1939]

Absolutely! Although you'd be surprised how many women would sleep with guys based on his looks alone regardless of his personality. Then again women like that are usually stupid...

Women and men truly are opposites:

When looking for a quick hook-up or one night stand:

Attractive Men prefer the hot women but will easily hook up with a very average looking/slightly below average looking women just to get off.

Attractive women, on the other hand, will look for the most handsome well built man. When looking for a one night stand, the average joe does not really stand a chance.

When it comes to dating and relationships:

Men want cute women and better. They don't want to be with an average or below average looking woman.

Women are more forgiving of a mans physical flaws and look for financial stability, power and confidence. The reason you see average looking men with attractive women.

 

[MooseGod]

^Spoken for truth.

 

[potato]

As all dating experts have stated: Women are not as visually oriented as men and prefer dominant confident personalities over a nice body or handsome face.

Actually women are just as attracted by looks as men are. It is just that there tends to not be very many really good looking guys.

This is evidenced by all the average looking at best looking guys walking around with attractive looking women.

Look in the gossip magazines. The very pretty women, the women who make their living, in part, based on their looks (movie stars, models, singers) tend to have much better than average looking men in their lives.

I think average looking guys have an edge over handsome guys because they understand the rules of attraction better.

Can you show this to be true? Can you state explicitly what best attracts a woman to a man? Do you understand what it takes to be attractive to women?

In every case, men who are universally attractive to women are much better looking than average. Of course to be truly attractive one has to have a good personality and confidence but it is never pitted against looks – it is looks plus personality plus confidence.

 

[TonyWongButOhSoRite]

This thread is kinda stupid. I mean your bascalliy saying all good looking dudes don't have good personalitys and all average dudes do when it really just comes down to the person. Also saying average dudes have an edge is also stupid cause it comes down to the exact people involed again unless of course we work off your logic of good looking people have no personalitys and no game cause they didnt ever have to try and pick up girls and average guys have loads of personality cause its been harder from them and they understand attraction better cause of it. I would think someones upbringing or even DNA would have alot more of an affect on someones personality & confidence rather than there looks. Also the whole thing of what job you have, How much money you make and all that you can't really decide off of a dudes looks. We all come from different backgrounds have different personailtys and so on and so forth.

 

[Outsider]

If you mean stop relying on your looks by meaning stop wearing makeup and getting perms and other crazy **** some guys do thinking it will get them laid, agreed.

If you mean it anyone other way, stop telling me what to do.

 

[stuka1939]

If you mean stop relying on your looks by meaning stop wearing makeup and getting perms and other crazy **** some guys do thinking it will get them laid, agreed.

If you mean it anyone other way, stop telling me what to do.

Just to reiterate my point about NOT relying on your looks to get girls.

I was at a wake tonight (not a close relative or a sad wake) and I noticed a cute girl in the front rown with auburn hair and green eyes. She was not a knockout, but she was cute.

A few minutes later I get introduced to her husband who was about 5'7", a soft body with an average looking face and glasses. Obviously, like thousands of other attractive girls out there, she probably was attracted to his confident personality (assuming he is confident, since she ain't with him for his looks)

 

[TonyWongButOhSoRite]

^^So your saying you went to a wake and saw an average looking girl with an average looking man? Point is?

 

[Outsider]

Haha

 

[stuka1939]

^^So your saying you went to a wake and saw an average looking girl with an average looking man? Point is?

I never said she was average. She was cute, there is a difference.


Average looking= NOT attractive, but NOT ugly

 

[Quiksilver]

Good tip.

I can see where this is going...

Please, if you're going to make a grand statement (eg. Looks don't get women) then you're going to have to back it up with some evidence or proof or a story that confirms what you're talking about. Making wild extremist statements based on imagination rather than logic is what leads to pathetic arguments, flaming, and ultimately this thread being locked.

Keep the discussion respectable and I won't close it.

 

[Quiksilver]

We have a bit of a misunderstanding. I was using your statement as an example, but intending the message for everybody who is going to contribute to the thread.

Most threads that house the looks vs. personality discussion tend to deteriorate into what I stated above, and bring out the worst in people. I'm merely saying that if you're going to make a case, you're going to have to use proof or have something that supports your theory, to bring it out of the clouds and down to reality.

For the record I too believe as you do.

Hope that clears it up.

 

[Jon55]

No, this is a very good point.

I used to think I had the edge (in looks) because girls always seemed to like me. Damn was I wrong. Turns out the looks, while they definitely didn't hurt, wasn't why I was getting girls. It was that confidence that I had that was doing the trick.

 

[stuka1939]

No, this is a very good point.

I used to think I had the edge (in looks) because girls always seemed to like me. Damn was I wrong. Turns out the looks, while they definitely didn't hurt, wasn't why I was getting girls. It was that confidence that I had that was doing the trick.

Being tall and/or handsome makes a man feel more confident.

 

[oakraiderz2]

This thread is kinda stupid. I mean your bascalliy saying all good looking dudes don't have good personalitys and all average dudes do when it really just comes down to the person.

Thats not what he said. You seem kind of offended by what hes talking about.

 

[Answers]

Celebs are interesting (for this reason only!) in what partners they pick. Male celebs always have good looking partners BUT many times female celebs choose average looking partners.

Also look at celebs themselves... all female celebs are above average while male celebs can range.