To Stimulate Eye contact

[cannibustacap]

Whenever I get Eye Contact from a good looking chick (to my standards) and the situation allows, I introduce myself every time..

However... I get barely any EC these days. I don't think I'm that ugly. I dress well and gel my hair. But girls just walk around with their eyes in their pockets. To make it even weirder, it seems the girls with boy friends are MUCH more alert to EC than single ones.

How do you approach girls if they give you no EC. They are probably shy and must be broken out of their shy shell by a DJ but I do not know how to get her to give me EC.

I stare at their eyes as I pass by (no, not a stalker stare) I just watch. They are down the entire time. It is sad they are missing out on my piece of ass (hehe.... ) but still I must figure this out.

If this has been covered before, I am sorry but I can't find it anywhere.

What do you guys think? Approaching a girl whose eyes are fixed on the ground.

Here are things I try to minor success:
Stand near her and pretend to look around and if we make EC, initiate convo.
Try to bump into her (the EC there could be good or bad though. Oh well)
However, I have no clue on a cold walking approach. I could ask for directions, but there has to be a better way.

Besides, it feels a bit awkward when I do it that way. EC is sooo much better and it isn't awkward at all because I lead and make her feel good. (or try to... some girls are f*cking bytches! oh well their loss)

 

[Lifeforce]

Are you skinny or fat? When I was more skinny than I am now I got no EC. Now I get from almost everyone and people are alot more friendly. If you feel you are skinny or fat then this is probablu your problem.

Another problem might be that you hang out in places where EC is not standard, like crowded streets, gallerias, subway, etc... the best places to get EC IMO is streets where there are moderate of people present, when they wait for something or in stores.

Some girls just lack confidence to flirt, they are insecure and afraid of being judged. I read a survey on this and in sweden normally only 50% of the girls flirt. Girls with boyos are much more confident and lock just for fun and ego boost.

You walk towards her and say and enthusiastic hi, if she responds with a enthustiastic hi, continue to talk to her, if she says hi in a boring/neutral tone, say something like "Excuse me, wrong person" and walk away. Reason for this is to filter out the girls who don't want to **** you.

 

[cannibustacap]

This doesn't help explain why fat/ugly DJs get HB10s?

How do they get EC? Or how do they work around it?

 

[Dapper Swindler]

I tried for hours to get eye contact. The few times I got it, it was only for a split second.

Here's a trick to get the EC!

Say hi first before eye contact! They will surely look up and look at you trying to figure out who the hell is saying hi to them! Problem solved! Thanks for playing!

They will probably think you're a weirdo. However, your chances still improve infinitely over doing nothing.

 

[cannibustacap]

Originally posted by Dapper Swindler
I tried for hours to get eye contact. The few times I got it, it was only for a split second.

Here's a trick to get the EC!

Say hi first before eye contact! They will surely look up and look at you trying to figure out who the hell is saying hi to them! Problem solved! Thanks for playing!

They will probably think you're a weirdo. However, your chances still improve infinitely over doing nothing.

It feels so weird if you don't establish an Eye connection before introduction. You startle them, scare them, or catch them off guard.

I know I guess its a numbers game. one of them will be cool... but is there a better way? Bump into them?... Ask for directions?

I can't do that to every single girl all the time.

Are the DJB articles that cover this?

 

[DJ_Dork]

Originally posted by cannibustacap
This doesn't help explain why fat/ugly DJs get HB10s?

How do they get EC? Or how do they work around it?

Uh, it's not eye contact definetely. It's something the guy has that she wants that YOU DO NOT HAVE.

/Ugly dude with Hb8.

 

[Dapper Swindler]

I was halfway joking but still making a point. Most people will NOT make eye contact. So you can either do nothing or you can do something to get eye contact. And if you're too afraid to "feel weird" and do these kinds of things then I don't see how you will ever be a DJ. If you want to wait until golden opportunities appear once every few weeks, then you aren't going to improve much.

You could ask them for directions. That would surely get eye contact. However this is more of an approach. If you want to do approaches, that's fine, even better.

Bumping into them? I'm afraid to see this develop as a trend and hot girls are constantly being bounced around like a game of human bumper cars. I think if the time comes when you bump into a girl and she knows you did it in order to initiate a conversation I would imagine she would be quite pissed.

Maybe there is some kind of shiney accessory that will cause people to glance in your direction. Heck, I don't know.

 

[cannibustacap]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork
Uh, it's not eye contact definitely. It's something the guy has that she wants that YOU DO NOT HAVE.

/Ugly dude with Hb8.

explain further. Do you maybe mean "vibes".

I usually always have a great attitude. In the morning I look in the mirror and I like what I see. I know I am a better than most guys (AFC) but still... girls are either shallow and go after 'hunks' (I'm not that great looking but okay. A little chubby but its hard to tell with clothes on) or they just don't see "it" in me.

I think its the latter.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

I notice that when I dress fairly nicely and with a lot of style, and especially with a shirt that kinda stands out, I always get eye contact. Just today I was wearing a nice stylish shirt that really stood out (not flamboyant or anything) and I was lookin really good all around, and I noticed almost everyone passing by me who wasn't preoccupied (cellphone, digging through purse, engaged in conversation looking the other way) looked at me. Quite a bit moreso than usual. Even guys, but mostly girls.

It helps to visually stand out....that will get the eyes looking in your direction.

 

[cannibustacap]

Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
I notice that when I dress fairly nicely and with a lot of style, and especially with a shirt that kinda stands out, I always get eye contact. Just today I was wearing a nice stylish shirt that really stood out (not flamboyant or anything) and I was lookin really good all around, and I noticed almost everyone passing by me who wasn't preoccupied (cellphone, digging through purse, engaged in conversation looking the other way) looked at me. Quite a bit moreso than usual. Even guys, but mostly girls.

It helps to visually stand out....that will get the eyes looking in your direction.

where were you and do you have a picture of yourself... I am just looking for a reference.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Originally posted by cannibustacap
where were you and do you have a picture of yourself... I am just looking for a reference.

I was walking around downtown Madison (state street) and around campus, so fairly busy areas. I suppose I can take a picture of the clothes I was wearing. Again like I said, nothing too fancy, but I definitely stood out from the average guy in his grey t-shirt, red Bucky sweater or blah polo.


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Here's what I wore around outside today, including shoes watch and sunglasses. Nothin too special, but it gets the job done. The shirt doesn't quite stand out in the picture like it really does. I've got better clothes than this, too; I wouldn't consider that one of my "money shirts", lol.

All in all I looked pretty good in it and I was very "noticable". I suppose it also helps that I'm good looking, but like I said, when I wear stuff like this I get more looks than usual.

http://etisnomad.com/misc-files/clothes.jpg