DonPasquale5th
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Hey guys, i'm not sure what to do about this sticking point. Recently i talked to someone who helped me see what was happening.
When i walk up to women, i can open her easily. I can run routines with no problem; body language is not an issue. But my problem is i don't FEEL like saying anything. I just dont feel like i have anything to say to her or have anything to talk to her about even though i want to talk to her.
When i open i can say hi, be relaxed and not think a thing. It goes NOWHERE unless she is social and into me. I can use routines but i dont like to. I want to talk to her about something but i dont feel there is anything i should talk about. Its like, a whatever (i dont care) or a blank in my mind. How do i get myself to feel like talk to her about something?
I can easily keep up conversations, put a new twist, change the frame, etc. But, for the life of me i cant start a conversation unless its a routine. And i am not interesting in saying a routine (including my own, i rarely use another person routine). I either think the routine is stupid or i just dont care about whatever i am talking about. I was recommended to talk to them as a friend but the problem is they cant relate to me if i do that. Its to specific or to much for a person you just met.
What can i do to make myself feel like talking about something, what exercise should i try? (for an example, pretending to have ADD and talk about w/e helped me be more social) and has anyone gone through this specific sticking point before and do you know what changed or what you do different to solve that sticking point?
When i walk up to women, i can open her easily. I can run routines with no problem; body language is not an issue. But my problem is i don't FEEL like saying anything. I just dont feel like i have anything to say to her or have anything to talk to her about even though i want to talk to her.
When i open i can say hi, be relaxed and not think a thing. It goes NOWHERE unless she is social and into me. I can use routines but i dont like to. I want to talk to her about something but i dont feel there is anything i should talk about. Its like, a whatever (i dont care) or a blank in my mind. How do i get myself to feel like talk to her about something?
I can easily keep up conversations, put a new twist, change the frame, etc. But, for the life of me i cant start a conversation unless its a routine. And i am not interesting in saying a routine (including my own, i rarely use another person routine). I either think the routine is stupid or i just dont care about whatever i am talking about. I was recommended to talk to them as a friend but the problem is they cant relate to me if i do that. Its to specific or to much for a person you just met.
What can i do to make myself feel like talking about something, what exercise should i try? (for an example, pretending to have ADD and talk about w/e helped me be more social) and has anyone gone through this specific sticking point before and do you know what changed or what you do different to solve that sticking point?