"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To smile or not to smile

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This actually a very serious topic. ANd I'm not sure how extensively this has been covered.

Here is what I have found.

Shy girls - soft eye contact followed by smile, or they get too nervous.

Hotter girls - Firm, not psycho eye contact, no smile until she smiles.

Here's why

Hot girls get smiled at all day long, and fear returning smiles will send the wrong message. If you smile first, you are giving her an opportunity to reject you by looking away, and or not smiling.

If she doesnt smile at you and looks away, you confirm she is probably not interested.

Its good to be smiling in general, but once you make eye contact, let your energy settle, and allow some space for you to feel each others vibe. Then when she smiles, return with an "I know exactly what to do with you smirk."

It works for me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hot babes may get smiled at all day but if the dude whom they are strongly attracted to smiles at them they will definately smile back.
If you want to smile then go ahead and do it, I wouldn't even worry about this, the more things that you worry about the less confident and bold you become, if you want to do something just do it, don't live your life to impress hot babes, become the type of dude who they themselves want to impress.
 

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All I can say is try the eye contact experiment and see what kind of results you get. It's really interesting.
 

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Dongfu, fastseduction.com does agree with your smiling strategy. For me, tho, lately I've just said **** it, and I now smile at everyone. In the end, how you handle a random chick walking by you hardly amounts to anything one way or the other.
 

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Obsidian said:
Dongfu, fastseduction.com does agree with your smiling strategy. For me, tho, lately I've just said **** it, and I now smile at everyone. In the end, how you handle a random chick walking by you hardly amounts to anything one way or the other.
For sure, I dont really care one way or another. 9 times out of 10 I smile just because. But when I see a really good looking girl, I like to not smile sometimes just to see how she reacts. Almost always I get her to smile that way, then I know for sure I am invited to talk to her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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