To show or to hide you are seeing other girls... that's the question!

[Starriol]

Well, I have this "problem" . I'm dating this girl, I like her pretty much, doing my job at not falling into infautation.
So I'm gonna go out with another girl this weekend, the first doesn't know it.

It's not we are exclusive or anything, but I'm sure she wouldn't like it.

So my moral dilema is, should I be honest with her or keep hiding the fact I'm trying to **** as many woman as I can before I die?

So far, the lies are winning the contest...

How do you guys handle this?

 

[frivolousz21]

Dont tell her you are seeing other women


why?


because your attention is divided...

which means both of them will work hard to get more of it

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Starriol
Well, I have this "problem" . I'm dating this girl, I like her pretty much, doing my job at not falling into infautation.
So I'm gonna go out with another girl this weekend, the first doesn't know it.

It's not we are exclusive or anything, but I'm sure she wouldn't like it.

The moment you say "I am dating someone else" you are toast.
She'll start cheating on you too.

Just use it to your advatange: from time to time mention "a friend of mine... whose name is...Ann" in a very peaceful way.
Do you say you are dating her. Say "We hung out at... had some drink... bla bla". It shows she has some competition, so she shoudl work hard to get your attention.
But if you say directly "I date other women" it will be too much for her.

 

[seanchai]

Think about it: do you really believe you should be casually dating more than one person at a time? If you do, then you have to tell her. It will be congruent with who you are and while she may not like it, she'll have to live with it or she can leave you. If you believe you should be dating more than one person, then you have to accept that some people won't believe that and won't be able to date you. Don't necessarily tell her outright, but you should make it known somehow that you're seeing more than one person.

Not telling her would be seriously AFC.

 

[&UWlNoMeByThTrlOPusy]

if this question rises i say no one woman can satisfy me babe - and of cours you are free to have dissapointing sex with other dudes when i have no need of you.

then i'd nail her befor she starts arguin back

 

[al77]

Originally posted by seanchai
Think about it: do you really believe you should be casually dating more than one person at a time? If you do, then you have to tell her. It will be congruent with who you are and while she may not like it, she'll have to live with it or she can leave you.
Not telling her would be seriously AFC.

I don't care if it is AFC or not. But if you tell her directly "I date other girls" you will be dealing with a sl*t who is constantly cheating on you. If this is what you feel "congruent with who you are" - then sure, go ahead and tell her everything.

You have to use the fact you date many girls to your advatange, not in ordert to get sl*ts only in your bed. You have to tell her only some hints.. only at some specific momenst to increase her desire of you. If you just bluntly say "I date other girls", she'll immediately start looking for some backup dudes and fvck them.
Is this what you want?

Yes, let me repeat it: you have to lie to her by not telling the whole truth. Use it, otherwise she will use you.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by &UWlNoMeByThTrlOPusy
if this question rises i say no one woman can satisfy me babe - and of cours you are free to have dissapointing sex with other dudes when i have no need of you.

She will not be with you unless she is a 100% sl*t. So you are willing to lose any girl at any time just cuz she asks you some questions regarding your dating life?

If you don't frigging care about her and think she is so disposable, why not just use her and have sex with her instead of revealing your whole life to her and losing her??

 

[&UWlNoMeByThTrlOPusy]

Originally posted by al77
She will not be with you unless she is a 100% sl*t. So you are willing to lose any girl at any time just cuz she asks you some questions regarding your dating life?

If you don't frigging care about her and think she is so disposable, why not just use her and have sex with her instead of revealing your whole life to her and losing her??

who says i dont care about her? i can care bout lots of people n lies arr a headache. yeah, you might lose a good girl if you said this, and if i liked one girl enough maybe i'd see her exclusivly. but prefrably, don't let the question rise.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I never understood why some guys felt it made sense to bring up other women when they are out on a date. What are you trying to prove, what's the benefit? Why are you kidding yourself?

 

[EquityPrivate]

She needs to EARN your monogamy. It's not free.

You only get a free market with transparency.

If she wants an exclusive relationship with you let her earn it.

But, I know you won't listen to me on this point. I'm leading horses to water...

 

[ScrewIt]

A real man is honest. Girls respect men who are honest.

Now Im not saying spill your guts and confess.

But if the question arises, let her know. Between men and women trust is important. Just tell her you're seeing other people. you dont necessarily have to use the word "date".

 

[Bloke]

Honesty is one of, if not the, main key to a successful life

Make it clear you are not tied down by her & you see other women while you date (not relationship). She will either take it or leave. Don't get me wrong, they won't like it, but if they want you bad enough they will stay around & will know there worthy of being your missus.

 

[Mr. Cardio]

First off, you guys need to stop argueing over nothing.

Second and back to the topic, you have a girl, or a girl that says she wants to be your girl, and you have other girls too.....your question is, should you just be honest with her and tell her you have girls trying to fvck you? Y.E.S...... let me explain why and how though...

If you really like this girl buddy, you want to tell her that OTHER GIRLS are coming after you. Matter of fact, when you get around her, have her see the messages and the numbers on your cell phone and tell her that girls are coming after you....why should you do this?

Because girls want the guy, that every girl wants, period. If her interest level is high now, oh, just wait until she finds out that girls are tring to get at you, now not only will she get jealous, but she will actually try a little harder to keep you coming around her. She might ask you, are you fvcking them? Just laugh and say simply, they want me too. She will start to get a little jealous and now, her interest level in you will go higher, and you now have a potential life partner here, because she sees you now as more of a prize to be WON. You got me pal.

 

[SynapsyS]

Petition to make it clear that you aren't monogamous from the VERY START?

Signed.