"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To Save a Soldier

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A man I know is 19, leaving for the Marines in about a month. He is a friend of the family and has my highest respects.

He has a GF, about the same age, HB9. He just lost his virginity to her last week and is crazy in love. Her IL, until recently, has been very high too.

Tonight he is all upset because she is starting to flake. She hasn't been giving him as much interest as before. Based on what he said I am not convinced she is 100% gone yet.

My dilema is I don't want him getting dumped after he gets into bootcamp and have that stress on top of the stress of bootcamp. For his sake I am thinking I may not give him any advise on how to save it and if she dumps him, better now than after he leaves. In the long run I think I'd be doing him a favor.

What do you guys think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I was military in Viet Nam, two tours. Having women 'back in the world' is a terrible idea. I saw if f*** up many a man.

If he arrives at boot and she's gone, he won't have time to think about it for quite a while.
 

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I seriously doubt she is a 9 but that is beside the point. He should be happy that he lost it to a hot chick and focus on other things besides her.

She isn't taking it seriously because the flaking has already begun. She knows he will be out of the picture soon, so that means she needs to wrangle up new dudes that she can fvck. She ain't going to be waiting for him while he's off at camp. That's for damn sure. That's like those Long Distance Relationships that never work out when the chick needs some meat when the guy ain't around.

I had two friends from High School get married and joined the Marines. Didn't even last 5 years when the women stated cheating while they were away serving our country. One of my buddies came home to find out his wife was fvcking another dude and she hit him with a false domestic violence charge after he tried to block her from hitting him. Ended up having to go to a program and needed to have supervised visits with the kids.

If she is hot, other dudes are going to want her pvssy. She isn't going to go without d1ck when she is just as h0rny. Tell him that and to spin some plates, there are some cute military girls who are looking for a good pounding. :up:
 

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I know a guy who broke up with his girl at about that age, went off in the military for a few years, and then came home and married her. That was about fifteen years ago. They are still together and by all indications very happy. Tell him that story. If she's meant to be, she'll just come back into his life later, so there's no need to stress about it now.
 
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