"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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To Rent On My Own Or Move In With GF

Metaphysical

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So I'm 23 - had 50+ girls already. Found a girl I feel a good connection with.

I make 80k/year but in NYC - that's peanuts.

A small 1 bedroom condo is 2k a month. I could pay that off by myself, or split the rent with my gf which would make it much more manageable.

Any advice?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alle_Gory

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Metaphysical said:
Any advice?
Make sure that worst case scenario you can kick her out and you can still pay rent. Also don't put her name on the lease so if you do kick her out, she doesn't have claim.

Make sure you can't get burned.
 

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do not move with a girl you do not intend to marry in the very near future

turst me on this one. the 1k a month difference is not worth it in the long run. get your own place for now
 

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backbreaker said:
do not move with a girl you do not intend to marry in the very near future

turst me on this one. the 1k a month difference is not worth it in the long run. get your own place for now
+1 on this.
 

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EFFORT said:
+1 on this.
+1000 on this as well with that kind of money you'd be a fvcking fool to move in with a girl. And for what half rent & free pvssy? Fvck that bro hold your dignity get YOUR OWN place. Trust me eventually they will LEAVE or you'll want them to
I did this mistake twice
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's not worth it. Her shoes will take up the whole fvcking closet and your bathroom will have that faintly permanent 'period blood' smell.

But like Alle_Gory says, move in with her for the hell of it and learn what it's really like to live with a woman. Learn what a pain in the ass it is first-hand. But yeah, don't put her name on 5hit so you can kick her and her shoes out when you're sick of her.
 

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Just don't do it. It will be a painful experience which could be an expensive experience if not played right.

Side note I do not envy the cost of living in NY at all. Though it's mostly because of the depressed market out here, you can rent a 3 bed 2.5 bath with two car garage for 1k. 2.5k can get you a 5 bed 3.5 bath 3 story home with an elevator. I could see moving a girl in there. If you get pissed at her, the other room is in another zipcode.
 

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I'm actually glad I played house with my guwlfwend when I was 21-22 so I could get that **** out of my system at a young age.

Their p!ss smells really bad.

It's not that I would absolutely never consider doing it again, but it's definitely not something I'm ever going to wonder if I'm "missing out" on, and thus make another bonehead move, like play house with the wrong chick again.
 

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Metaphysical said:
So I'm 23 - had 50+ girls already. Found a girl I feel a good connection with.

I make 80k/year but in NYC - that's peanuts.

A small 1 bedroom condo is 2k a month. I could pay that off by myself, or split the rent with my gf which would make it much more manageable.

Any advice?
Friend just broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. They live together. Every night sucks for him lol.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alle_Gory

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Huh? Isn't one of the goals of this site to learn from the more experienced members so we aren't doomed to repeat the same mistakes.
Yeah but does anyone do that? No they have to get burned a few times before they understand why. I say go for it.
 

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Take the term of the lease, subtract about three months, maybe six if you're more optimistic, and that's the number of months in hell that you risk. If you could get a month-to-month or at least a short term lease, it all might not end quite as painfully.
 
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