To next or not to next....That is the question

[thefonz]

Whether it is nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of.......sorry......Ok, There's this girl i've been trying to bang for the past 2 weeks. She's alright but my buddy tells me that she wants me bad but when i went to set up a date the first time she invites 2 of her friends. This was ok because she asked ME out so there was nothing I could do. But when i asked her out the second time she invited 2 of her friends to come along *strike 1*. I gave her the benefit of the doubt cus i may not have made it that clear that is was a f'in date no "hey meet my friends".

I asked her out saturday to meet on thursday for "date 3". I called thursday to confirm and got the voicemail and a callback 3 hours latr saying she locked her keys and cell in her car, sounded geniune but still......*strike 2*

I didn't call her the following weekend cus i didn't feel like it but finally decided to call her on sunday to hang out....got the voicemail again and got an antsy call back that night when i was asleep on my voicemail saying I shoulda stopped by her work to see her...ok, *strike 3*

and after she struck out i called her again the next day cus we hadn't talked in awhile and AGAIN....voicemail, i just said i would talk to her this weekend and i haven't talked since.

Here's my question for all you patient readers (and i thank you for taking the time) I have a geniune fear of overeacting too much to a woman's actions so I want to get an opinion from you guys if i'm in the right wanting to next her. I HATE coming off as a sensitive ***** to people. What should I do?

*edit* - I see this girl inmy tues/thurs class and she is a little shy but she is into me. I wanna know if i should toss her back and bait my hook again

 

[RiceHapa888]

does she call you- what makes YOU think that she is into you- sometimes your friends can be wrong- just trying to explore this from all sides-
go ahead and talk to her in class but start targeting other girls- if you guys could do something after class that might work out and she cant bring her cblock friends along. If shes really shy then she might be anxious about being alone with you. Maybe it takes some trust- maybe shes just retarded

 

[flexion_]

Garbage In - Garbage Out. Thats what I see here.

If you aren't direct about your intentions (ie. garbage in) then you will get garbage out as your response. You ask her out - thats the way it works - if you deviate from that then you will get garbage out.

I have no idea what to think other than if you want to ask her out then do that - invite her to come along to something fun that you do. There should be no possible way that she thinks you are hanging with her other than for a date. If she doesn't want that then she does't want you in the first place.

Also, your buddy should have nothing to do with this so stop talking to him about her.

 

[thefonz]

Flexion, i told her after strike one when she invited the friends the second time, "Maybe I didn't hear you right but I thought this was just gonna be a date between you and me." So i made it very clear early on of my intentions, no fogginess (and i made her feel awkward after i said that).....my friend talked to me ONCE about it and that was all we said and changed the subject.

I believe she is just very passive about this whole process and i'm probably gonna next her.....besides i'm not really that into her so it's hard for me to have this 'go get em' attitude when she's like a 6 with not much personality.....i guess i'm just horny and looking for the easy lay....it's getting warm and anything with a pulse and a tanktop is looking f-able to me.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by thefonz
Flexion, i told her after strike one when she invited the friends the second time, "Maybe I didn't hear you right but I thought this was just gonna be a date between you and me." So i made it very clear early on of my intentions, no fogginess (and i made her feel awkward after i said that).....my friend talked to me ONCE about it and that was all we said and changed the subject.

I believe she is just very passive about this whole process and i'm probably gonna next her.....besides i'm not really that into her so it's hard for me to have this 'go get em' attitude when she's like a 6 with not much personality.....i guess i'm just horny and looking for the easy lay....it's getting warm and anything with a pulse and a tanktop is looking f-able to me.

Bro your making NO SENSE!! You give her the 3 strike rule and then STILL CALL HER??? WTF is up with that!!! And believe me she knows you want her but her interest level isn't high enough for her to put you up there on her priority list. Definitely NEXT her, but be friendly in class if she starts up a conversation. No more asking to hang out and if she asks you to do something don't jump at the bait right away.



PIMP

 

[thefonz]

i called her after strike 3 just because I hadn't heard from her in awhile.....I just wanted to see what her excuse was, maybe she was in the hospital or something, for not returning my calls all weekend (i had already concluded that she was difficult but i just needed to make sure.....believe what you want). I also have this fear of overreacting too much which is why i brought up this thread in the first place, to make sure i wasn't being ultra sensitive for nexting her. But ya, I am moving on regardless cus i'm not that into her. I do think she has high interst in me still but her friends also have hinted to me she's really bad at keeping boyfriends so i don't feel that much at fault anymore. F it........NEXT

 

[Wiesman44]

Here's my general rule that usually works in 99% of instances.

If you have doubts on whether she's into you, chances are she's not. Women make it VERY VERY known if they're into you.

If she truly wanted you, she wouldnt let you be pondering this question, now would she.

 

[thefonz]

I'm not really pondering much of anything to be honest.....I know she is really into me cus everyone tells me so (and NO I don't go around asking). But doesn't matter really cus this girl does nothing for lil' fonz.....there's another girl in the same lecture hall class and I think I wanna get something going with her. She's cuter, more personality and we work in the same group whereas the the girl I've been discussing sits on the other side of class with her group (we didn't know eachother when semestor started). Whatever, onto greener pastures....

 

[Big Eee Zee]

If you have doubts on whether she's into you, chances are she's not. Women make it VERY VERY known if they're into you.

Not true. At least, not always. If shes shy she may in fact not display any signs.

My .02: take her somewhere romantic, like a quiet solitary walk when its nice out (at night). Go sit together alone somewhere and do the hair test. You know, play with her hair and get sensual. If she doesn't object, she is def into you and the making out will follow within minutes. If she squirms or something then theres nothing left but an awkward walk back the the car.

 

[Wiesman44]

Big E Zee, no, what I'm saying is very true. Most women work the same way.

This is assuming the girl knows you like her. If she knows you like her, what I said holds. if she doesn't have the faintest idea, now thats a different ball game.