"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To Much Change?

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Hey,

I've said something once about people not wanting me to change, well, I have gone forth and really started changing. Recently, a new profile pic of me for Facebook sparked some discussion amongst a few friends. One in particular is really against it. Basically, the picture is a profile picture of me in my new clothes, but with the addition of a hat and some aviators. I made it black and white and basically, it's bada**. People who know me, have expressed negative comments about it, for example, this was on AIM:
dude im cool with that but as far as that damn picture goes ITS NOT U GOD DAMNIT
u are who u are and i know u arent that person in the picture
why do u want to be that
I asked a couple of girls what they thought of the picture and they thought it was good. I know you aren't supposed to let people hold you down, but these are my friends who have known me for years. I don't know what to do because I am trying to be this person who isn't the geek or nerd they know.
Any suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Evolution

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I don't give a damn about what anyone else thinks of me.
Possibly one of the influential quotes there are.


Your friends will pull you down, and don't want you to change.

But, **** what they think. You friends will be blown away by who you can become.

All the girls who weren't interested in you before, will suddenly be interested in you.

You'd wonder why...
 

SinJester

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Haha same thing happens with me, but I use Myspace. I never used to have a picture of myself, instead like a picture to change its place. Then I put a picture of myself up and all my friends gave me ****. 'LOL nice pic!' and whatever. Thing is, eventually all of them copied me ;)

They don't know who you are. The only person who has to listen to your thought every minute you are awake is you. However think about this, if one of your friends all of a sudden started acting heaps different wouldn't you be a little weirded out and want them to stop?

Eventually them will get used to it. You can let them hold you back if you want so you don't get comments like that. You can leave your life they way it is. Or you can let comments like that roll of you like water and become the best you can be.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Just tell them it's a new style you like and you feel good about yourself. If they don't like it then, they can svck a d1ck.
 
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