to let go? leave her alone?

[captain55]

So I went on a date with this chick who I really clicked with. Made out the first date and things went great.
Went to see her a second time, got her top off in the parking lot but she told me that she thinks we should wait a little. During the second date, my phone rang while we were in the car and she grabs it and it was a text from another chick asking me when I was going to be there (I planned another date on the side:crackup: )

she told me to take her home, but eventually I convinced her that I was blowing the other chick off. made it through the night...

anyways I caught her on pof again. the same day she sends me a text with a picture of herself saying that she misses me.

when I questioned her she told me "I do miss you but I feel like a player and that I honestly shouldn't. I'm conflicted with you"

I'm just trying to get her interested in me again. she told me she is going to be in my area for her birthday visiting her friends but that is three weeks away. should I go see her before this? or should I give her some space for a while and wait three weeks until she comes here?

the problem with long distance things is You cant drive three hours to see a chick three times in a row making it look like you don't care...cause your driving three ****ing hours lol. makes her look like she has all the power and I do not want this.

 

[denverfan110]

you're driving 3 hours to see a chick you met on PoF...? and you're not sure you're gonna get a lay?

dude your time is worth so much more

 

[captain55]

you're driving 3 hours to see a chick you met on PoF...? and you're not sure you're gonna get a lay?

dude your time is worth so much more

pretty much. She told me it would take 5 dates to have sex with her to prove to her that I'm serious.
I DO regret ever seeing her in the first place but I also DONT like the idea of quitting half way....after I already drove to see her twice. I hate women, and knowing that I spent 100 bucks on gas and bought this chick gas to not go through with it would be hard

 

[Alvafe]

I would hate more losing even more time, take the loss now and move on learn from this and stop losing time with women you find over the internet....

 

[thatfeel]

cut your losses while you still can, don't be a chump just to get some pvssy

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Holey fvckn smokes bro. Don't even know where to begin.

She told me it would take 5 dates to have sex with her to prove to her that I'm serious.

Then on the fifth date.....she flakes.

Don't waste your time or your money. You let her take the lead and call the shots.....bad news.

Get the fvck out. This one sounds like a head case anyways.

 

[Yewki]

she told me to take her home, but eventually I convinced her that I was blowing the other chick off. made it through the night...

You convinced her? Should have been the other way around. You shouldn't have been the least bit apologetic about her seeing the text, you're not in a relationship with her. Sounds like you bent over backwards to appease her though and pretended she was more important. Should have put the ball in her court and said something like, "I'm keeping my options open, but I just might flake on her if you can to convince me." If she gets offended oh well, act cool and nicely drop her off. You're the prize.

 

[LP700-4]

She is slowly beta-fying you. Run while you can. You're not in deep yet. 5 dates to have sex??? She is trying to use the pu$$y to control you. Don't be a mindless zombie. Run, you fool. Run.

 

[captain55]

She is slowly beta-fying you. Run while you can. You're not in deep yet. 5 dates to have sex??? She is trying to use the pu$$y to control you. Don't be a mindless zombie. Run, you fool. Run.

she makes me so mad. she doesn't realize the mall we go to is 5 minutes from her house...and its a 2 hours drive for me. Im halfway there and she didn't even have anything ****ing planned for us to do. ended up going to some **** restaurant...

like really ***** I just drove two ****ing hours to see your ass?

You have no idea how mad I am bro. the ultimate- I **** this chick, get her attached, never talk to her again (hence have her hate me). I feel like if I walk away, it means she got the best of me.

I think she has some feelings for me, but is turned off by the fact that I would come see her...o i cant do anything about it.

we try to look like we don't care about them and that they aren't important to us, but its hard to do that when your getting in the car and driving two hours to see the *****.

 

[captain55]

You convinced her? Should have been the other way around. You shouldn't have been the least bit apologetic about her seeing the text, you're not in a relationship with her. Sounds like you bent over backwards to appease her though and pretended she was more important. Should have put the ball in her court and said something like, "I'm keeping my options open, but I just might flake on her if you can to convince me." If she gets offended oh well, act cool and nicely drop her off. You're the prize.

bro this chick is different, the usuals dont work.. she told me that she has feelings for me and misses me but thinks im a player and feels like she shouldn't. If she thought I was a dork who would worship her ass she probably would have slept with me by now.

 

[captain55]

You convinced her? Should have been the other way around. You shouldn't have been the least bit apologetic about her seeing the text, you're not in a relationship with her. Sounds like you bent over backwards to appease her though and pretended she was more important. Should have put the ball in her court and said something like, "I'm keeping my options open, but I just might flake on her if you can to convince me." If she gets offended oh well, act cool and nicely drop her off. You're the prize.

I agree. the problem is very simple...shes the type of chick who likes to be treated like **** because she knows that she's worthless, and is using the fact that Im so far away to make me into a beta like the other guy said. if I go there she knows im arranging my day to see her and it makes me look like a *****.

on the bright side, she is coming out here in two weeks with her parents to look at a house. hopefully she doesn't delete my number by then.