"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Rejection stings big time. It can make you not want to try with another girl because when it happens so many times, you keep thinking it's not gonna get better. I have to admit, I used to be good with getting girls, but years later (presently) I've become rubbish at it, The rejections really hurt, and that's obviously because of my ego. In my mind I think I'm the ****, but when I get rejected it brings you back to earth, crashing down. After a while it starts to affect you and you start thinking maybe I'll never get someone I really want, cause all of them seem to react to me the same way.

My question is, how do you shut out these thoughts and stay positive. Every rejection is so discouraging, but at the same time, I hate the idea of giving up, it's too pathetic, but yet I don't know what to do. I'm a decent looking guy with a great body, yet I have a ridiculously hard time attracting decent looking women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The reason it hurts it's because your putting yourself in a position that the girl can easily reject you, bruising your ego.
 
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quit puting so much value to the opinion of other people man.

why is "HER" rejection so harsh on you??? only because she have a PUZZy?????

Improve your self and stop worring what other people think of you
 
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Stéphane said:
The reason it hurts it's because your putting yourself in a position that the girl can easily reject you, bruising your ego.
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What your saying makes sense, but can you explain more? I don't know how to do all this playing hard to get stuff. It seems unbelievable ridiculous, it's as though the girl is interested, but if you show any interest, boom she backs off. It blows my mind that getting together with someone has become such a complicated process.
 
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JEFE said:
quit puting so much value to the opinion of other people man.

why is "HER" rejection so harsh on you??? only because she have a PUZZy?????

Improve your self and stop worring what other people think of you
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I don't know, it makes you feel that because she rejected you, you are lower than her. I know this is the wrong way to think, but I'm sure many who have gotten good at this thought this way at some point.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When I really like a girl, I don't know where my mind goes. Too much wanting her to like me and impress her which is the wrong way to go. The only thing that helps is when I like that one girl, other girls flock to me because I could care less about them. Does help my ego, when that one girl is out of reach though. :whistle:
 
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Gladiator80 said:
...The rejections really hurt, and that's obviously because of my ego. In my mind I think I'm the ****, but when I get rejected it brings you back to earth, crashing down. After a while it starts to affect you and you start thinking maybe I'll never get someone I really want, cause all of them seem to react to me the same way...
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What that ego should be saying is..
Another girl who is not interesting enough for me...NEXT!!
 
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