"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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To grey or Not

davewe

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I'm in my 50s and getting grey. No kidding! I've always resisted coloring thinking it's vain or some such crap. Also I kind of think grey looks good on some men - Clooney, Johnny Carson. However i don't look like either of those guys.

So now I'm wondering whether a hair makeover might help my game. Course I could just shave myself bald like Neil Strauss.

Any opinions?

Dave
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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At 50 it's hard to say. Some guys start getting gray in their 30's and I think they should color their hair. It could only help your game to color it.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Dave,
Interesting,but my Father reckons his Uncle came back from France after World War 1 had finished and he was grey at 19 !....Sure colour your hair,who cares?....as a tip going Silver Grey all over is less of a give away,failing that go for a similar colour to your natural colour,don't go blonde unless you are already light brown,don't go black unless you are at least Slate..You will get criticism,but only from Guys who are greying themselves...You will be surprised how young looking it makes you,I reckon at least five maybe more years...Do it following your next Annual Holidays raises less interest that way.
 

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I'm 33 and I'm seeing greys pop up quicker than mushrooms. Not enough to dye my hair, but starting to get tiring plucking them out. But better to go grey then go bald I guess.
 

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Shoot, I'm starting to go bald, so at least you're keeping yours into your 50's. If I were in that situation, I'd let it grey. You've earned it by that time. As for me, I'm going to keep shaving my head; women seem to like it and it does feels good when a cool wind blows on it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JohnWalker1259

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Gray and loving it.

I was thinking about doing the same however.. women go though all that crap with the makeup coloring hair and a hell of alot more. I like being myself that is what sets us apart from women and they love it... so I think :) I have be told by many women that they love my gray hair.. they say it makes me look distinguish. I think that women are looking for that father type man or a man that look like he know what the hell is going on in life and how to handle them and everything else. I may color or even cut the gray hair that is growing down south of my border lol thats not a cool color down there :cool:
 
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