To GO OR NOT TO GO?

[lookyoung]

I need some advice. This is the wierdest thing. I have had oneitis for the past 6 months until 2 months ago. I am totally over this girl. Even when I had oneitis for her I still wouldn't have touched her with a ten foot pole. I broke up with her because of personal problems she was having.

After I broke up with her she went and dated a person that I knew. Not a good friend but someone that I work with. I thought this was disrespectful of him and her. She called me and I never returned none of her phone calls since then.

The bottom line is this there is going to be a work party and my coworker is going to be there with my ex girl. I want to go but, don't want to go because I don't want to see that bvtch. I just hate her guts. I really don't give a fvck about him. although at the time this went down I caught him at a bar and challenged him to a streetfight on the spot. Which he declined. I know it was stupid and immature of me but I let my emotions get the best of me. (Big time AFC move)


My question is should I go or not go to this work party???????????????

 

[Last Man Standing]

She owes you nothing and you owe her nothing!!! What do you fear? Do you fear that she will have dudes crawling on her and you will be left stranded and thus your pride would be hurt?

It's your work party -- why not go!!

 

[lookyoung]

She owes you nothing and you owe her nothing!!! What do you fear? Do you fear that she will have dudes crawling on her and you will be left stranded and thus your pride would be hurt?

No, I don't fear that but I am still kind of pissed of about the situation. Everyone at work knew about us, and then she is with this guy. I feel kind of awkard. Plus this is going to be at a house. It's not like a bar or a club where I could walk away.


But then again if u think about it this girl svcked and fvcked me in every way, So I rather be in my shoes then in his shoes considering he wants to marry her.

Even though I was an AFC for wanting to fight the guy, I come from a tough past, I have been in many street fights and I still can't believe this guy had the balls to do that. WHich really hurt my ego. He is so lucky that I am 30 and more mature now. If this happened when I was 24 it would have been the worst mistake in this guys life.


LMS- I know we have been beefing lately but thanks for the advice.

 

[Last Man Standing]

[LMS- I know we have been beefing lately but thanks for the advice.

Haha, to be honest with you during our "beefing" I actually enjoyed it and had a good laugh - you guys give me a reason to live!

You are the typical male - why take it out on the dude? Isn't he merely following his masculine nature by pursuing a woman? What has he done to you? Nothing?

Why even fight over a hor? You were merely just the next pimp in line!!!

This is why it is not always a good idea to be screwing women at work - because shyt becomes awkward and dangerous once it is revealed!!!!

If you don't show to the party then people are going to be thinking that it is because of the ill feelings with the girl! So you chumped out!!!

Go the party to show that there are no ill feelings and that you are the better man!!!

 

[avrilishot]

****t I guess go? really that is actually a tough call. if you go just ignore those dumb fuks and try to have fun.

 

[lookyoung]

^^^^^^^ LMS U BRING UP GREAT POINTS I WILL CONSIDER THIS.:yes:

 

[Kev07]

1. nothigns wrong with the guy get over that.
2. dont let that girl control your life, if you want to go to that party go!
3. befriend the guy i think that would be interesting.

imo you really overeacted to her getting with that guy

 

[lookyoung]

1. nothigns wrong with the guy get over that.
2. dont let that girl control your life, if you want to go to that party go!
3. befriend the guy i think that would be interesting.

imo you really overeacted to her getting with that guy

Your right Holy shvt I think I am going to befriend the guy perfect

 

[OneEyedJack]

The OP is VERY AFC, and not very DJ.

1. You aren't over her/him/it/the situation. It still rules your thoughts and feelings.
2. It is ok to be pissed, it is not ok for it to prevent you to go to the party.
3. You are acting out of FEAR. You fear how people will react/think of you.

The DJ that you (and all of us) want to become would say, think and BELIEVE, that what was done is done, and I am not going to wade thru' that sh it again. I'm going to go to that party with my head held high, be pleasant, ****y and funny and *BE* the person that I want to be. If it gets hairy for ANY reason, I will be cool as a cucumber in the arctic, and if necessary will remove myself from the situation.
I will not get angry, snippy, whiny, *****y, cry, or yell.
I will be a gentleman, I will act with class, I WILL be the person that I want to be.

 

[flexion_]

I'd suggest *not* going to the party.

You challenged the other guy to a street fight? Sorry but that isn't something that one does when they are over a chick. You clearly aren't ready yet.

 

[amoka]

If you have a hot female friend, call her and tell her to accompany you to the party. If she is hotter than your ex, she'll be jealouse. Then when you get to the party, shake everybody's hand, including your ex's boyfriend. If you don't have any female friend, still go to the party if you want. Shake the dude's hand. Talk to him brienfly and to chat with more mature people in your league.

 

[Kev07]

if you do decide to befriend that guy make sure you apologize for lashing out so harshly, streetfight? come on now.

 

[lookyoung]

The OP is VERY AFC, and not very DJ.

1. You aren't over her/him/it/the situation. It still rules your thoughts and feelings.
2. It is ok to be pissed, it is not ok for it to prevent you to go to the party.
3. You are acting out of FEAR. You fear how people will react/think of you.

The DJ that you (and all of us) want to become would say, think and BELIEVE, that what was done is done, and I am not going to wade thru' that sh it again. I'm going to go to that party with my head held high, be pleasant, ****y and funny and *BE* the person that I want to be. If it gets hairy for ANY reason, I will be cool as a cucumber in the arctic, and if necessary will remove myself from the situation.
I will not get angry, snippy, whiny, *****y, cry, or yell.
I will be a gentleman, I will act with class, I WILL be the person that I want to be.

Your right the way I acted I was AFC. But the funny thing is I don't even give a fvck about this girl. Like I said I wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole.

It is an ego thing no girl ever fvcked me over except this bvitch. She is not even that hot she is an HB 7. So I was an AFC.

As far as saying sorry 2 this guy fvck that. I will not lose my cool.

 

[lookyoung]

If you have a hot female friend, call her and tell her to accompany you to the party. If she is hotter than your ex, she'll be jealouse. Then when you get to the party, shake everybody's hand, including your ex's boyfriend. If you don't have any female friend, still go to the party if you want. Shake the dude's hand. Talk to him brienfly and to chat with more mature people in your league.

This is exactly what I am going to do.

 

[CrunchyNut]

Go. Dont try and make your ex jealous, you will end up looking petty. Apologize to the other guy for challenging him to a fight, because that was petty, and apologizing will make you look a lot bigger-a sincere apology is one of the most difficult things to do when you have done something wrong.