To dominate or not to dominate?

[cervantesscthree]

So I've been talking to this girl that I had slept with a while back, she calls me saying that she's been called in to wrk to work in a bikini on the weekend 'cause it's a beach party :woo: (she works in a club) I tell her whatever, go hard & get that paper.

The next day she calls me up saying she really doesn't want to wrk in a bikini cause it's trashy, I'm starting to get irritated now and tell her I don't care it's yr biz, then she says "I wish I had a boyfriend so he could tell me not to work in a bikini." . . . I tell her not to do it cause it's fu**ing whor* like and if she does it I'll lose all respect for her and she'll be even less than a bootycall to me. She says she won't work that weekend now.

Now, I always thought telling a girl NOT to go out in any situation was a no no, an afc trait, overly dominating and so on, let the girl do whatever and if she's going on silly simply find someone new. So what happen there? She clearly wanted me to tell her not to work. So eh? I'm confused. Someone please share their interpretations.

 

[Night-hawk]

I'd say it's more above-averagely fvcking cool to dominate a woman to submission. In her case, she seems to respect your opinion; and, in your case, you showed her you have a standard, and that by her NOT doing something for you is a challenge, and therefore is attractive to her.

Now, what to observe is...does she follow through with it.

 

[cervantesscthree]

Yesss, thanks for the insight. I'm never usually fussed about such things because I just can't be bothered to put much thought into girls these days,"the laziness always wins." But yeah, we'll see what she does...

I wonder how far I can go with her, and women in general, in the dominance arena? (without seeming like a lunatic obviosly :trouble

 

[SgtSplacker]

What women want in a man is a father figure they can bang and will support her just the same way lol.

 

[cervantesscthree]

What women want in a man is a father figure they can bang and will support her just the same way lol.

+1 rep

Thank you SgtSplacker you did it, YOU ACTUALLY DID IT. You have no idea for how many years I've been searching for that one short sentence that explains what game is and what "women want."

After nearly a decade, of struggling to explain it to these AFC Beta guys in the simplest way, tripping over my own words, stuttering, repeating myself, and speaking at length . . . but now, that's all I have to say: "What women want in a man is a father figure they can bang and will support her in just the same way."

God bless Sgtsplacker, you've just made my day. :rockon:

 

[LorenzoVonM]

I took something a little different from this:

She is trying to get more investment from you. I don't know the specifics but you mentioned she was a booty-call. She also says she wishes she had a boyfriend. You putting energy into her increases that investment. In her 'obeying' your word aka being submissive, she thinks she is sucking you in further by playing to your ego. Girls are not stupid. She is gonna play all her tricks and be as agreeable as possible to get to relationship land.

Once the relationship happens then a situation like this may turn out the exact opposite with a sh*t ton of drama.

 

[Night-hawk]

Lorenzo makes a good point. A keen observation many guys will miss. They can be canniving little chameleons; slippery salamanders.

 

[Bible_Belt]

"she calls me up saying she really doesn't want to wrk in a bikini cause it's trashy"

Right there was one of the few times that a hot girl will actually say what she means. You have to watch closely for those moments. They are like shooting stars, gone in an instant. That was your moment to be a pimp. "Aww, it's ok baby. We just need to get a few shots of liquor in you first. It will be good for your tips." That sentence would have been the verbal equivalent of a pimp slap. She would have stfu, and the issue would be over.

I'm starting to get irritated now and tell her I don't care it's yr biz, then she says "I wish I had a boyfriend so he could tell me not to work in a bikini."

You can do what you want, but I'm never going to let myself be baited into the impossible task of trying to chase men away from an attractive woman. I would flat out tell her that if she gets paid to work in a bikini, then she is obviously attractive enough to have any boyfriend she wants. That's a compliment, but it's back-handed one that also calls her on her own bs, something I guarantee most guys will never do.

 

[adam225]

+1 rep

Thank you SgtSplacker you did it, YOU ACTUALLY DID IT. You have no idea for how many years I've been searching for that one short sentence that explains what game is and what "women want."

After nearly a decade, of struggling to explain it to these AFC Beta guys in the simplest way, tripping over my own words, stuttering, repeating myself, and speaking at length . . . but now, that's all I have to say: "What women want in a man is a father figure they can bang and will support her in just the same way."

God bless Sgtsplacker, you've just made my day. :rockon:

Lol, I agree. Short, sweet and direct.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

"she calls me up saying she really doesn't want to wrk in a bikini cause it's trashy"

Right there was one of the few times that a hot girl will actually say what she means. You have to watch closely for those moments. They are like shooting stars, gone in an instant. That was your moment to be a pimp. "Aww, it's ok baby. We just need to get a few shots of liquor in you first. It will be good for your tips." That sentence would have been the verbal equivalent of a pimp slap. She would have stfu, and the issue would be over.

I read a recent article about Kate Upton. She said after she did the Sports Illustrated swimsuit cover that she felt sick for a month. Married guys were coming up to her, all sorts of other panting d*cks hitting on her, etc. She said she absolutely HATED being objectified.

Guess what she did the following year: POSED AGAIN!!!! Thats not even mentioning the other 5000 pics she took wearing less fabric than a half-sock.

Don't let girls fool you, they like the attention. She is playing the "respectable" girl. The "'good" girl they make dress up in tiny outfits. If she didn't like it she wouldn't be working at a freakin' club.

 

[cervantesscthree]

I took something a little different from this:

She is trying to get more investment from you. I don't know the specifics but you mentioned she was a booty-call. She also says she wishes she had a boyfriend. You putting energy into her increases that investment. In her 'obeying' your word aka being submissive, she thinks she is sucking you in further by playing to your ego. Girls are not stupid. She is gonna play all her tricks and be as agreeable as possible to get to relationship land.

Once the relationship happens then a situation like this may turn out the exact opposite with a sh*t ton of drama.

"she calls me up saying she really doesn't want to wrk in a bikini cause it's trashy"

I would flat out tell her that if she gets paid to work in a bikini, then she is obviously attractive enough to have any boyfriend she wants. That's a compliment, but it's back-handed one that also calls her on her own bs, something I guarantee most guys will never do.

Hmm, thanks for the insight folks, food for thought, damn wish I knew what you guys are saying then. But even if I told her that she's good enough to get any bf she wants, she would have simply told me: "Yeah but I want you cervantes." So what then?

I like the why's she working in a club if she doesn't like the hassle, I'll bring that up with her.

 

[cervantesscthree]

Yooo I love you guys! *News just in* So I follow what's been said in the thread and the convo went sorta like this:

Texts
Me: Wrking out at the minute and I was thinking, if yr boss thought you were worth paying for to work in a bikini, then clearly yr attractive enuff to get a bf ez, so whadya mean "if you had a bf"? An if you don't like the attention what you wrking at a club for? Hmm, if you was my gf you would of got mad if I told you not to wrk...

Her: Noo I, said I wish I had a bf to TELL me not to go out. I don't like the attention. No I wouldn't.

Me: Fair enough. Don't lie, you even siad it yourself about [a female model] "girls love attention." That's a lie too, I remember you saying "I wish my bf would try to tell me what to do. I'd switch." There you have it.

Her: Yeah but you gotta do what you gotta do. I was messing! You know I like you yeah

Me: No you wasn't. I'm not the control type anyway I'd never tell you not to do something, if I don't like what someone's doing I'll just kick 'em out my circle :box:. Yeah trust me I know you do.

Her: I'd hate to put a foot wrong with you! Good. Oh god :nervous: Just had a sudden pang of wanting a baby...

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This isn't the same baby wanting girl I posted a thread about a while back either. Damn, how can you survive without game?