To Delete or Not To Delete

[the305]

Delete numbers from those flaky girls that don't respond?

Don't be so quick to cut a girl off due to a few non returned phone calls/text messages, 90% of the time you can turn the situation around, its not about an ego or looking like an "AFC", look at it like, its about learning how women act and react. trying different tactics and techniques to map out natural responses to situations and to figure out any holes you have in your game.

if I was to cut girls off left and right for every little non returned call my game would naturally plateau, likely at a level i'm not comfortable with. instead I push the boundaries. sometimes you are that hard to reach/always busy guy, and sometimes you are that guy who is always hitting up the girl to see if down to chill, using different tactics. If you aren't on both sides of the fence, then you only have one perspective of how girls treat guys on that said side of the fence.

if you are happy with your game, then.. be selective you've earned it. if not, lol you better not be deleting any numbers.. you better be figuring out what went wrong.

I say only cut people off if they are a negative impact in your life.

 

[scorpio1138]

I agree. I don't delete unless I've not heard back from them at least 2 months.

I remember the first time I was going to delete a number since I thought she lost interest. I didn't and 3 weeks later I got a text from her and we went out later that night.

 

[Dubh]

its time for some spring cleaning man after about 3 weeks alt control delete that numb

 

[the305]

Dubh: you delete the number and you NOW lost your chance to meet up with her again and figure out what what wrong, Pretty obvious your ego runs you, you dont run your ego.

For the guys who don't have over powering egos:

Try this technique, put girls in your phone like "Michele-Xyzbar-May" now scroll through your phone every so often and when you see "May" girls, hit them up with a mass text. Its literally 30 seconds of your time to rekindle a lost relation with someone you were interested in.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

How about a girl you've met once, for a few hours, nothing much but talking and some kissing... while on vacation. We were talking for awhile online before though..a few months...normal non resume type info (I'm going back twice for family and friends soon) who was single but as of now according to facebook is "in a relationship? Haven't heard from her in two weeks. I deleted her off my Facebook the other day. Still have her number written down though I did delete it from my phone to prevent drunk dialing/ texting.

 

[the305]

Thats a pretty immature move to delete her from facebook, to be honest, do you expect her to not live her life and be happy? You gotta start somewhere though, just realize, what your actions show.

This chick lives a plane ride away though dude, What are you even trying to get out of this? Is it worth putting the effort year around so shes down to hang with you everytime you happen to be in her town on vacation?

Hit her up when your in town, and occasionally here and there. if you're cool with her, act like your cool with her...

 

[amoka]

Purge those numbers.

 

[the305]

You obviously didnt read anything in this thread, lmao.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Thats a pretty immature move to delete her from facebook, to be honest, do you expect her to not live her life and be happy? You gotta start somewhere though, just realize, what your actions show.

This chick lives a plane ride away though dude, What are you even trying to get out of this? Is it worth putting the effort year around so shes down to hang with you everytime you happen to be in her town on vacation?

Hit her up when your in town, and occasionally here and there. if you're cool with her, act like your cool with her...

Below is my thread about the situation...maybe it was immature to delete her, but as stupid as this sounds I really liked her from online, to the phone, and in person even though she lives in another state I may eventually move to in the near future. I didn't expect her to wait or anything. I just deleted her as I felt it was a waste of time to keep her on there. It's my fault. I just went with the advice I’d received and felt myself. I can't turn back now if I ever hear from her again..I know..I'm a friggin MORON for liking someone I'm not going to wind up with..sucks..

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=173423

 

[casthenova]

You don't call me back you get your **** deleted and I never talk to you again.

 

[teacha]

i delete numbers if they dont respond back within a specific time (1 week maximum). I got no time to spend figuring what went wrong...its on to the next one.

I look at it this way, if she doesnt respond within a specific period it means she is not interested in me.

 

[Serg897]

Yeah, Im not sure what there is to gain by keeping the number in your phone if she has clearly shown a lack of interest. How are you going to be figuring out what went wrong if she is just going to continue to ignore you? If she didnt return your calls once, what makes you think she is going to respond to a text three weeks later? Its always possible, but its not likely.

Better to spend your efforts on women that show they are interested.

 

[the305]

i LOL at the "if she doesn't respond, shes not interested" wow is that so wrong but besides that, all of you are missing the WHOLE point.

"OMG a girl didnt return my phone call, im going to be a MAN who knows what he wants and cut her off, that will teach her to mess with me, i dont need to waste me time" little do you know that you ARE wasting your time that you spent gaming her, by cutting her off, along with her friends.. invitations to parties.. social proof, etc. etc..

If you guys dont hit it off in "that" way, the you make a cool new friend, is it THAT big of a deal... can you ego not handle not handle that? The more girl friends you have in your life, the more options you will have with women. period.

You guys need to man the hell up, for real.

 

[teacha]

i LOL at the "if she doesn't respond, shes not interested", you all miss the whole point, of having women in your life. its not a shes

i dunno about you but i only keep around women who are interested in me.

 

[the305]

its a guys job to GET her interested then attracted in you, ahh thats like attraction 101.

:: rolls his eyes ::

People have lives, their lives don't revolve around meeting the opposite sex like the the majority of this forum. Girls will not return a phone call/text message and STILL be completely open to hanging out, most of the time she may have doubts.. you didnt build enough rapport.. comfort.. etc.. guys need to perform their due diligence, not act like a 5 year old and delete the number after no returned contact.

A follow up text to a group of flaky girls takes literally 30 seconds, and can only benefit you, NOT harm you.

 

[teacha]

i LOL at the "if she doesn't respond, shes not interested" wow is that so wrong but besides that, all of you are missing the WHOLE point.

"OMG a girl didnt return my phone call, im going to be a MAN who knows what he wants and cut her off, that will teach her to mess with me, i dont need to waste me time" little do you know that you ARE wasting your time that you spent gaming her, by cutting her off, along with her friends.. invitations to parties.. social proof, etc. etc..

If you guys dont hit it off in "that" way, the you make a cool new friend, is it THAT big of a deal... can you ego not handle not handle that? The more girl friends you have in your life, the more options you will have with women. period.

You guys need to man the hell up, for real.

how the hell are you gonna get invited to parties if she don't return your calls? there are more than 11 billion girls in this world, why should i care about one.

 

[teacha]

its a guys job to GET her interested then attracted in you, ahh thats like attraction 101.

:: rolls his eyes ::

not everyone is attracted to you, aah thats like seduction 101.

 

[the305]

this forum is entertaining, i swear lol!

 

[the305]

not everyone is attracted to you, aah thats like seduction 101.

You aren't even making sense now.

you said you only talk to women who are interested in you. Ever heard of.. girls playing hard to get? being flaky? not building enough rapport for them to be interested yet?

All of the above comes with girls not returning a phone call or a text message usually. In other words, you only like the easy chicks...

Hey.. what ever works for you man.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

305

How about girls who get into relationships after you met them? You'd still keep their number? To me if she has your's she'd call eventually. Why hold it for possible drunk dialing or texting? Or to even have a list of them and have to see them when you look for someone else'e number? I was told by a few friends to just keep it and keep the facebook, but I felt it was a waste. If she really was interested she'd call sometime or write. No?