"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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To cross or not to cross

LuciferSam

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I read somewhere that "the man who has the will to risk it all has the power to gain all". This is what life is all about, the risks, every choice we make can be attributed in someway to a risk, if you make a choice to go out today there is a risk you could get run over by a car, its a little cliched I'm sure but the thing is the results can be more than you imagined.

I want to contribute my analogy to you guys, I am pretty psyched about it because when I looked back it made so much sense.

Right, relax. Picture yourself standing on the side of a road. the otherside is where you want to be, its your goal, your final destination so to speak. It looks so good to be there, to experience it's beauty and what it can offer.
You are about to take that step across the road and your good foot touches down on it then a sudden feeling crosses your very soul.

"What if I go to cross the road and i get hit by a car?"

Suddenly your stomach and chest tighten. That familiar feeling of you heart racing fast to pump the blood around your body. Your muscles tensing...you feel sick. Its true, if you cross a car may hit you.
You sweat and place both feet back on the roadside, back in your comfort zone. You turn and walk down the roadside, carrying on with your routine, all the time you catch a glance of the otherside and what you are missing out on. This is the point where you get annoyed with yourself and after this regret sets in, and a life of regret is dangerous, if you let it it will burn you up.

Now, remember when you were standing at the roadside and your good foot was on the road, you never took the time to even consider this:

"What if i don't get hit by a car?" You never even thought about the prize, the prize, the otherside, it probably would have been worth getting hit by a car.
The car applies to whatever that risk is in yourlife. It does not mean mindlessly running into the road, you still have to look left and right before crossing (thats being mindful and aware)

I have successfully spotted many places in my life where this would have helped me, like when I just couldn't conjure up the guts to ask that girl out becasue i was scared about the rejection so much. When its applied you realise alot of lifes fears come from imagined threats.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Anomalous

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Cross the road, If You Get Hit, At Least You'll Die Without Remorse.
 
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