"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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To change the part that haves the control

Aquilo

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Now I´m seeing this girl ( which I yet haven´t even kissed, this is a SLOW one) that I have been on a couple of "dates" ( masked dates, like shopping and training). I´ve not in any way been needy or anything, but rather haven´t had time to see her very much. Any way´s a couple of times she´s been testing me, by "dissing" me. But just recently when I talked to her, she was talking to me, like I was her *****.

Is there any good way you could change the control without being rude, when you are talking to a girl and she´s behaving in that way?

And another question is, how should you react, if a girl disses you. Should you really say to here, "DON`T do that to me again!" and show that it has made a impact at you, and that you won´t tolerate it again, or should you just ignore it, as you doesn´t really care whatever she does?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is she dissing you, or is she being ****y and funny with you? There's a HUGE difference.

If she's dissing you, drop her like a bad habit. She has no respect for you and you do not want to be a part of her life.

If she's being ****y and funny, she's being playful and you're supposed to be the same with her.
 

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She´s dissing me. I love when a woman is ****y and funny, cause I´m naturally that way, and I like to play with them. But this time it was clearly dissing. For example, when I talked to her a couple of weeks ago, she invited me to celebrate new year with her and some friends of her, as a VIP at a big party in another country. I said yeah probably, and when I brought it up now, she said she had given the VIP to another friend, because I was to late to say yes. I hadn´t even spoken to her in those weeks ( been busy )! And then she was patronising me. Like she suddenly was the queen.

The thing is ( as always =) ) I´m not ready to drop her just yet. Is there a way to change the control? She was totally in to me a while ago and gave me alot of respect, but that has suddenly changed.
 

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Look, some people find a little control and run with it. It's very difficult to overcome it when someone is not used to losing control. You would have to make yourself THE CATCH in HER eyes. Maybe it's possible, and maybe you need to ditch her before you spend too much time on a girl who really has no interest in you... unless it's all about HER.
 
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Aquilo said:
...I have been on a couple of "dates" ( masked dates, like shopping
This is why she disrespects you!!!! You have already showed her who wears the pants!!!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is there in any way that you can, cause I´m the one that usually contacts her ( I realise I´m kinda of ****ed here n e ways.. =) ), contact her and in someway change the control. Like saying something to her that clearly marks that I´m THE MAN? ( I realise it might be magic I´m looking for here, but still)
 
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Start dissing her!!!! On your next date have her help you wash your car!!! Don't tell her until you are ready to wash it!!!
 
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