i dated a woman for a while and it didn't work b/c she was emot unavail and b/c of a misunderstanding we had. Recently I emailed her an apology for my part of things and she replied with an explanation of herself and that it would be nice to hear how I am doing. I replied a few days ago and have yet to hear back from her. I am driving through the town she lives in in a few days and thought it would be nice to see her and touch base personally. My question is whether it is okay to call and ask her to get together again for a coffee or something?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
to call or not to call
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